Need some help

[Charlie1230]

I have been having questions about my gender identity and I just need advise about how to tell my parents. But also I mostly need comfort. I like to relate to people. What do I do?!?!

[Soliloquy]

Hi Caitlin,

I find it to be incredibly admirable that you want to come out to your parents. I understand how scary that can be. Kudos to you for being so brave!

Keep in mind that you do not have to tell your parents anything if you are in the questioning stage. A lot of people don't come out to their parents until they have pinpointed what it is they are. You might find that you need to take some time to yourself to sort out your feelings. I think it is also important to consider how your parents might react to the news. Do you think it would put a strain on your relationship if you were to tell them now? While these are things that I would like you to take into account before going through with this, I am not trying to discourage you at all.

If you are absolutely certain that this is what you want to do, I think you should try to sit your parents down when you know there will be no time limit on what you have to say. Make sure you have plenty of time to explain yourself. You could say something along the lines of, "Mom and Dad, I am questioning my gender identity at the moment. I am not sure if I feel comfortable living as my biological gender." If you don't feel completely comfortable talking to them face-to-face, you could also write them a letter to show to them. Writing is a great way to express yourself thoroughly! This is what I did when I first came out to my mom as a lesbian.

Remember that there is absolutely nothing wrong with the way you are feeling. I think it is incredibly brave of you to want to tell your parents about this. I hope this helps! Please take care!