Am I bi?

[Moonlight.]

I was just wondering if you guys think I'm bi. Yeah I know it's really up to my decision whether I admit I am or not but I'm just generally confused. It's just whenever I see a really pretty girl, I kind of get the same feeling I do when I see a really hot guy. Like today, I was in Legal Studies and I was working with a girl in my class I don't usually work with. Now, not only is she pretty but she's really nice. And I kind of had butterflies in my chest and stomach area whenever I looked at her.
And the same thing happened yesterday while I waiting to go in for my music performance. This girl in my class came out from just performing along with her twin sister and friend. She could tell I was nervous (I think everyone could ) so she was like "You'll be fine. I love you" (she meant it in a friend way) and she hugged me. Because we didn't have to wear school uniform, she looked really nice in her outfit. But as soon as she hugged me, I had the same feeling and emotion rise up in me.
I know DEFINATELY I like guys...I have all my life. But I just don't want to be bi...I have nothing against people who are gay, bi or lesibian but I don't think I can see myself as liking both male and females.

[Apollo]

Rianna,

I think what you are feeling is very common, but don't try and rush into categorizing yourself. You've got lots of time to figure these things out and as time progresses, your feelings will become more "natural". You can try experimenting with dating other girls and if you feel comfortable, or not. There is a chance you may be bisexual. Also -and I know this is going to sound stupid-, but you're going through changes in hormones and everything, so this confusion doesn't necessarily mean that you aren't heterosexual. But don't be afraid to accept yourself, no matter who you like.

I hope things clear up for you soon.

-Apollo

[Sidhe.]

Hey.

Sexuality can be a very personal thing, in that no one else can tell you what yours is. That's something you have to figure out for yourself, which I'm sure you know.

You say you're confused - that's natural. Sometimes all it takes is time to sort things out, so don't try and rush into anything. Along those lines, I'm also going to warn you against labelling yourself; the way I see it, you like who you like, and there's no sense trying to put a name to that.

Do you mind me asking why you don't think you want to be bi? What about it makes you dislike it?

[Moonlight.]

Just liking guys is all I've known...like I said I have nothing against gays/bi/lesbians but I just can't see MYSELF as being one.

[bitesize]

The others have given good advice. I kind of agree with what you just said ~ growing up I never would have seen myself as liking girls ~ it just didn't seem like me..which is some of the reason it took so long for me to admit to myself that I was bisexual.
I think that if you can get the chance, you should try to experiment with other girls and see if that clears up or confirms your feelings in any way. But you don't need to rush into labeling yourself as anything. (:

[jajay]

I too never saw myself liking girl. it took me a pretty long time to understand my sexuality.

I agree with them, there is no rush to lable yourself,

[Sidhe.]

Since you have a newer thread on this topic, I'm going to close this one. PM me if you want it reopened.