when to use the opposite bathrooms??? -
February 1st 2011, 03:22 PM
Ok, so I've been openly trans going on four months now (I came out to my parents a little after new years). Anywho, I feel like I pass fairly well even though I'm rather large chested. I wear a binder and an ace bandage under that and guys clothes and such, but back to my point. I'm wanting to get an stp (stand to pee device), but I'm worried about using the guys bathroom. I mean, whenever I walk into a public women's bathroom and no one says anything about me being in there. So I'm just curious about what you all think I should do. Thanks.
Re: when to use the opposite bathrooms??? -
February 1st 2011, 04:30 PM
Hey, there. I totally hear you when it comes to the bathroom stuff. Although I knew I was trans for a long time, I used the girl's room for the longest time because I was afraid of being outed in there, or worse, beaten up. I started easing myself into using the guy's room because I became friends with people who didn't necessarily know I was trans, so using the girl's room would have been really awkward. I started out by going into guy's bathrooms that I knew were not well populated, and I knew that because I'm part of an activity that takes place on weekends in empty high school buildings, so yeah. I suggest finding some bathrooms that aren't really busy and using those to become comfortable with it.
It's not as scary as it may seem. The etiquette is much different in the guy's room. Guys don't talk to each other, let alone look at each other, really, so no one's going to be checking you out or anything like that. Just go in, do what you have to do, and leave. Just seem confident and comfortable and no one will look twice. Also, if you plan on using an STP, practice at home a lot before you use it in public!