Non-PG13 (Strong Language): Grounded

Enchanted ❧ · **Grounded -** February 4th 2011, 02:21 PM

I got grounded for being Bisexual! Awesome. How the FUCK do you ground someone for their sexuality. I was never going to tell my parents, did not want them to know. I really did not. I knew that they would not approve. My sister told them. I don't know why the fuck she would do that. Well now I am grounded for a week for being bisexual I am grounded a month total, but the other three weeks are for different reasons. I just do not get it. I think it is so wrong. Is anyone else seeing this as umm. I don't even know what to call it, other then FUCKING retarted!

fermatakid · **Re: Grounded -** February 4th 2011, 02:57 PM

It's not right that you're being grounded because of your sexuality. Look at it this way: You're 17. I assume next year you'll be done with school and perhaps able to move out/away for school or whatever you plan on doing? Although it is not right, you do live under their roof, so it may be best to drop it instead of risk being "punished" even more. On the other hand, you could talk to them about it, but considering they've grounded you for it, they may not be willing to listen to what you have to say, unfortunately.

Discombobulated · **Re: Grounded -** February 4th 2011, 03:45 PM

I definitely think that it is wrong that you have been grounded for your sexuality, maybe you could talk to them and help them see sense?Y our 17, you shouldn't be punished for it and should stand up for what you believe in
Feel free to PM me if you want to talk
Stay strong and take care

mae_kas · **Re: Grounded -** February 6th 2011, 03:05 AM

Hi there,

surely what they've done is wrong and in more than one way ridiculous. Then again, the week will pass, and you'll be free, you might want to talk to your sister about why did she told your parents. And if you see fit discuss your sexuality with them for then to see they are not right and that no grounding can change what you think if ever will only make a breach between them and you if not making it bigger if there's one at all.

FlyingTrue · 06:24 AM

Legally this action constitutes a civil rights violation which is punishable by law. I suggest showing your parents the legal statutes in regards to this, or having them talk to an attorney on the phone. Your parents need to learn to accept you the way you are.

minivaccum2 · **Re: Grounded -** February 7th 2011, 12:34 AM

I'll say, I've never been ACTUALLY grounded. I don't give a shit what my mum tells me. I'll say: I'm going to town, and she'll say No! you're grounded! Then I say: Piss off. It's my life! But seriously? Grounded because of your sexuality? Wow. Tight arseholes. I don't know what to say. My family (except my nan) don't know i'm bi, and NEVER WILL.
Your Friend,
-Cadence

BabyIndia · **Re: Grounded -** February 7th 2011, 12:46 AM

TBH If that was my parents I'd probably sit em down and ask what exactly is wrong with being Bisexual. (After I'd screamed at them for a bit lol)

I would also ask my sister what she was playing at aswell.
Maybe she's done something bad and by getting you into trouble it's taking the heat off her?

Jaden89 · **Re: Grounded -** February 7th 2011, 12:56 AM

It isn't right for someone to be grounded for their sexuality but I'm wondering if it is the fact that you were hiding it from them that might have pushed them to ground you. I agree with the fact that you need to sit down and talk about things with your parents.

Invert · **Re: Grounded -** February 9th 2011, 10:42 AM

As the poster above suggested, maybe it was the fact you hadnt told them, because surely they would realise you are still going to be bisexual at the end of the week... and yet the punishment will stop for it.

Your parents are allowed to ground you, and it may suck, but if your parents are in fact being homophobic, its quite a light sentence, which you can wait out easily. Though in that time, do make them talk to you about it all.

Enchanted ❧ · **Re: Grounded -** February 9th 2011, 12:27 PM

So ya'll, I talked to my parents like you guys suggested, and my dad's exzact words were "you are not bisexual". Almost like if he tells me I am not, then I won't be. He said he still loves me, but it just is not right, that the bible says so. However the bible also says that you and your partner need to be equally yolked. So you could look at that as, well a guy and a girl are not the same so they are not equally yolked, Now a girl and a girl. I guess it may be all in how you interpert things!

crissy97 · **Re: Grounded -** February 21st 2011, 01:21 AM

fucking stuffed up my mum knows i am and she has a go at me and wont tlk to me

MusicFreakCaroline · **Re: Grounded -** February 21st 2011, 09:20 PM

That sucks no one should be grounded for something that you cannot change about yourself. Have you had anytime to sit down and talk to your parents about this? What did they say when they grounded you... :/ pm me?

oh just say your reply... oohh thats not good, you have bible beater parents... Did you tell them that you are sure of your sexuality and that nothing, including punishment can change this? And you can say that they can choose to accept it or not to but that they still cannot dictate your sexuality?

Boxy · **Re: Grounded -** February 24th 2011, 05:46 AM

I agree, grounding for your sexuality is stupid.
That's like grounding your kid b/c of their gender... unreasonable.

Parental denial is not uncommon. My mom is in denial of my sexuality too. There's not really a whole lot you can do to change their views on the matter.

If you really want them to accept you for who you are and are willing to work hard and possibly make things worse before they get better, then maybe you should try family counseling?

If you're not willing to do something like that.. then all I can say is to not speak with them about it anymore... speaking about it clearly makes them uncomfortable and act in irrational ways. It's not at all fair to you, but sadly, that's just the way it is..

Sorry I couldn't be of much help

Take care,
I hope things get better for you,
<3 Boxy

BeMySafteyNet · **Re: Grounded -** February 28th 2011, 12:16 AM

I had the same exact thing happen to me, you will push through it I hope, I kind of had a way to take it back and now I just lie to my parents. I don't like it, but I feel like I have to. And they aren't even that religious but my parents brought the bible into it too, kind of a way out I think.

Enchanted ❧ · **Re: Grounded -** February 28th 2011, 11:56 AM

Yeah, I get where you all are coming from. I had another chat with my dad about it, and it went about the same as others. I really do not care anymore. I am true to my sexuality, so they can love me for who I am or who I am not. This is not there decision in life, they can choose to be apart of it or not. I really do not care. I need to live for myself and not for them.(:

Rainbow Dash · **Re: Grounded -** February 28th 2011, 12:18 PM

I don't want to sound disrespectful towards your parents but that is INSANE O____O

All I can really suggest is maybe print these two websites off for them and try and make them realise that it's nothing you can control and not "wrong"

http://kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_he...ientation.html
http://www.bisexualindex.org.uk/index.php/Bisexuality

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FlyingTrue Offline TeenHelp Sponsor I've been here a while ******** Age: 20 Gender: Male Location: United States (FL) Posts: 1,037 Join Date: March 31st 2010	Re: Grounded - February 6th 2011, 06:19 AM Legally this action constitutes a civil rights violation which is punishable by law. I suggest showing your parents the legal statutes in regards to this, or having them talk to an attorney on the phone. Your parents need to learn to accept you the way you are. Last edited by FlyingTrue; February 6th 2011 at 06:24 AM.
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BabyIndia Offline Member Senior TeenHelper ******* Name: India Gender: Female Posts: 903 Join Date: December 8th 2009	Re: Grounded - February 7th 2011, 12:46 AM TBH If that was my parents I'd probably sit em down and ask what exactly is wrong with being Bisexual. (After I'd screamed at them for a bit lol) I would also ask my sister what she was playing at aswell. Maybe she's done something bad and by getting you into trouble it's taking the heat off her?

Jaden89 Offline Taste The Rainbow... Average Joe *** Name: Malissa Age: 23 Gender: Female Location: Michigan Posts: 142 Join Date: May 30th 2009	Re: Grounded - February 7th 2011, 12:56 AM It isn't right for someone to be grounded for their sexuality but I'm wondering if it is the fact that you were hiding it from them that might have pushed them to ground you. I agree with the fact that you need to sit down and talk about things with your parents.

crissy97 Offline everyone on here is cool Regular TeenHelper ***** Name: crystal stuart Age: 15 Gender: Female Location: taree nsw australia Posts: 399 Join Date: September 6th 2010	Re: Grounded - February 21st 2011, 01:21 AM fucking stuffed up my mum knows i am and she has a go at me and wont tlk to me be brave lifes to short make the most of it add me on http://www.teenhelp.org/ it will do u wonders xxx :P love crystal

Rainbow Dash Online makes everything 20% cooler. Outside, huh? ********** Name: Ceilidh Age: 21 Gender: Female Location: Wales, UK Posts: 4,763 Join Date: August 31st 2009	Re: Grounded - February 28th 2011, 12:18 PM I don't want to sound disrespectful towards your parents but that is INSANE O____O All I can really suggest is maybe print these two websites off for them and try and make them realise that it's nothing you can control and not "wrong" http://kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_he...ientation.html http://www.bisexualindex.org.uk/index.php/Bisexuality

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