Did i make the right choice?:huh:

[MCD_hu]

I'm a 16-year old boy from China. Really look forward to making friends with all you guys.

Probably like many of you, I found myself different from other guys in my school when I got 12. It was so abnormal, because Chinese society just tends to be conservative, even myself sometimes found gays disgusting. On the other hand, i do want a normal and traditional life, in which i will marry my Ms. Right and have our children. Therefore i spent years trying to convince myself that I was actually not and it was just a phase. During this period, I did not tell anybody this. However things showed no signs of getting better.

Nothing special had happened before last year. Then i met W. We were close friends. And it soon turned out that he is a gay as well.(and apparently he is pretty sure of that=). In turn, I also told him about my situation and my intention of not becoming so.
But life happens. As we got to know more and more of each other, i began feeling a 'thing' for him. (BTW i have never been in a real relationship before.) I got very confused, having no idea how to deal with it. Besides, we both tend to be bottom,(i'm not sure if this is expressed this way.= =) making it even weirder. Anyway, at a time, I told him about my confusion, only to know that he felt the same way. I He said he did want to ruin my future. And I got a winter vacation to think it through. I had a extremely hard time in the weeks.
Eventually, i chose to be with him. Because I realize, it does not really matter if I am or will be a gay or not, it is that i love W that counts.
That's probably it, and i really want to know if I have made the correct choice. Thanks.

Maybe, the above is not expressed clearly. Hope you have understood it.

[Discombobulated]

I think that it is great that you have decided it doesn't really matter because you love him. I don't think you can say if it is correct or not, you can't really choose how you feel, and whatever you decide is the correct chose for you.
Feel free to PM me if you ever want to talk, i'm always willing to listen.
Take care
Charli :-)

[Celestial.]

Hey there. (Welcome to the site!)

Figuring out, and then accepting, your sexual orientation can be a challenge under the best of circumstances, and it can be made harder when you live in a conservative type of society.

I think it's great you've met someone like 'W', who you can be open and honest with. If you like him and he likes you, I see nothing wrong with the choice you made. You followed your heart, and you can't be criticised for this.

I hope things go well between you.
Take care.

[Jmansoccer6296]

Heyy congrats on finding W!! I hope both of you do well!! Its good that you found out who you are, and you are accepting yourself. Which is a major step when it comes to sexuality. Make sure you always accept yourself, no matter what. You can always PM me if you need too. Once again, congrats!!

[MusicFreakCaroline]

This is adorable and I think you totally made the right choice .... LOVE IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN ANYTHING... And It doesnt necessarily make you gay you could be anywhere on the spectrum and its not necessary to label yourself. Pm me!

[Boxy]

I'm not sure what you meant by you "both tend to be bottom" but I think it's awesome that you finally accepted yourself enough to get into a relationship
I hope all goes well, and that you never regret it!

<3 Boxy