Is this a good way to come out?

[Kuraku]

I've been planning to come out to my sister.
Is it good to come out via text or FaceBook messages?
Or would it be optimal to talk to her? I would rather do it through text or FaceBook.

[Believe.]

HONEST OPINION: never reveal something over text or message... =] although it's uncomethorable doing it in person i think your sister would appreciate it :]

[Kaisada]

Dear Kuraku,

There are many factors at play here:

How much explaining do you anticipate will be expected of you? Depending on what you are coming out as, this can range from none, to practically never-ending, in the case of less well-known and/or less accepted identities. In the latter case, writing offers the time and space to really communicate everything that will be necessary to help the other understand - and opportunity to revisit a draft multiple times before sending it out, to make sure that no important details are left out.

Do you anticipate an overall acceptance or resistance? If you are confident of acceptance, it is of course optimal to do this in person; if resistance is much more likely, writing a letter - be it electronic or hand-written - is generally a much better alternative. This gives the person some time to come to terms with things, rather than blowing up in your face right in the moment.
If you are not sure: are you prepared to handle a potentially negative reaction? Do you think you are capable of keeping cool, even if the other person is not, and calmly state your case regardless?

How is your general comfort level with disclosing highly personal information in person? Some people find this very difficult, and will get nervous, stutter, etc - and that is perfectly okay. If you are just feeling uncomfortable, then mention this in your message - and I'm sure that if your recipient is accepting of your newly revealed identity, this will not be a problem either.

Best of luck,
Kaisada

[Celestial.]

Hey there.

First off, I think it's great you feel comfortable enough to consider coming out to your sister. There's no 'right' or 'wrong' way to come out, and it's up to you to decide which way works in those particular circumstances.

Honestly, my opinion is that it's best to do it in person, if possible. If you'd really rather not do that, then something less personal, like a text or Facebook message, would be okay. Have you thought about something halfway between, like a letter or phone call? I've always thought that letters are a lot more personal than emails, and a phone call would mean you could say the words, but not have to worry about expressions. Of course, the downside to that is you can't accurately gauge their reaction.

Whatever option you go for, I wish you the best of luck. Let us know how it goes!