How My Parents Reacted.

[BeMySafteyNet]

When I told my parents I was bisexual; by the way I don't think of it as bisexual, I think of it as whatever makes me happiest at that point in time, without a label. Anyway they grounded me, said I couldn't see my boyfriend any longer (and still can't even though we are only friends) , took my phone iPod and laptop away for a month, told me I was a fuck up, and they also took away my facebook away until the present, and I am sure I won't be getting it back.

(This is maybe four months now, after I came out.)

So they said that they would allow me a month to figure things out. And I did, I figured out that I had to lie to them about that part of my life, sadly, and still do to this day.

My question to you is do you think this was fair or realistic?
Did you have a similar experience?
And lastly, what would you do right now if you were me?

[ThePunkAlien]

Dude, I'm really sorry this happened. And no man, it's not fair. Not at all. Your parents are fucked up and they responded fucked up. You were brave to come out to them. I still haven't yet because I don't know how my parents will react. It also doesn't make us less of a guy to like guys. Guys are cute and their hot. We didn't choose to think that way, it's just how our mind works. James Dean was bi - he even came out and said he didn't want to spend his entire life with one arm tied behind his back. He's considered one of the most iconic male role models and was a really cool guy. Unfortunately some people want to label us or think bi guys are just in it for double the sex when that's the furthest from the case.

Never be ashamed of who you are, be who you are because that's the only way you'll ever really be happy.

[BeMySafteyNet]

Thank you, and I just wanted to see kind of if I was the crazy one. I totally understand where you're coming from. And the whole time I talked about it with my parents they told me how I was going to get aids and all of the sexual aspects of it, and I was like it's basically the same as being with a girl. Just it's a guy.

[Reverie.]

Heyy.
Let me tell you now, being bi is absolutly fine. If anything, you're brave for admitting it. Your parents may have taken it badly due to shock, but if they do have a problem with it, could you talk to them about it? Tell them that is doesnt change who you are, you're still their son and just because you like guys too, doesnt mean they should love you any less.
I believe being bisexual, homosexual, heterosexual, and any other variations, is just fine. there's nothing wrong with it, and you cant change it. you are who you are, be proud of it and dont let anyone make you think differently.
PM me if you need anything. x

[Ancora Imparo]

Hey there,

I'm really sorry to hear that your parents reacted so badly when you told them that you're bisexual. I really don't understand how parents can act like that when it comes to something that is completely out of their childs control as attraction is something that can't be controlled, it just happens. Plus, not to mention, we live in 2011 and not the stone ages anymore, being bisexual is way more acceptable these days than it ever was in the past.

I haven't had a similar experience to yourself but I figured that I'd reply to your thread anyway to show you some support because I do feel as if you have been treated unfairly and the fact that you have to lie about a part of yourself is not fair at all.

I think if I was you right now, I would continue to keep that part of myself away from them just to keep the peace and everything. Plus, I guess in a couple of years you'll be moving off to go to college or whatever you have planned for the future so once that time comes around then you're free to do whatever you want and date whoever you like because you're in control of your own life.

I hope that I've been able to help you in some way or another and I really hope that things start to get better in your life soon. If you ever want someone to talk to then feel free to PM or VM me at anytime as I'm always more than happy to talk about everything and anything.

Take care and try to keep strong.