Polyamory

[IrishFireCracker]

I am polyamorous. I am in a relationship with two individuals, a male and a female. We all three identify ourselves as poyamorous. None of us can see our relationship as being with only two people, i can't really explain it correctly... but most people see that as a relationship definition of a threesome. It is so much deeper for us, and, actually, the several dozen polyamorous groups we know. I feel honestly that, for us three at the very least(and I know I can speak for Sara and Nic), a relationship must have three people to make it whole. They are my first love, the only one I hope to ever have. But we catch such flak from even the LGBT community. It really hurts that most people just assume Nic is a polygamist(which I honestly see no problem with as long as you don't start marrying of children and whatnot). this side of relationships and sexuality has yet to be opened and it drives me crazy.
I don't know where I am really going with this it is 1 am and I am a bit grumpy. I guess I am gunna crawl into bed with my special someones and hope someone more normal doesn't hate me for my sexuality.

[TheLittleNinja]

I don't hate you for your sexuality! People should just accept you for who you all are! you're actually not the first group of people I've read about that have this sort of relationship! If you're happy with the way things are - then carry on going, try to ignore what people say! Only people that accept you are worthy of being your friends!

[allyouneedislove]

the only other one place that I've heard of polyamory is on youtube the first place that I heard the word, and the way he describes it is very intresting to me in my opinion, people shouldnt have to be limited to just one person if that's not what they want because they feel restricted or that they have to fit in with the norm I applaud those people that don't listen to that crap and do what they feel works for them. here is the link for the video.http://http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FUpV7tQuaCQ

[Jaguar]

I've been in a relationship with a poly-amorous person for two years and so far it's worked out ok. It took some time and effort for me to adjust to the fact that I had to share her love (and sex) with another person, but it helps that I know and like her girlfriend. Yes, like you I get a lot of shit from people who don't have a clue but we try to limit who knows about our private lives for that reason.

Just so you know you're not alone. I think there are a lot more poly-amorous people who are not willing to admit it because of the reactions and lack of understanding by other people.

[ChaosControl]

From what you've described, your relationship sounds affectionate and wonderful for both your partners. Try to ignore what sceptics say; you're not doing anything wrong. If it makes you happy, and it makes your partners happy, that's all that should matter. I know it's easier said than done but just try to hold your head high and know that you're in the right.

[JustSomeone]

If all parties are equal in this and are all in love then that's all that matters, don't let anyone bother you about it.

[Celestial.]

Hey there.

It must be frustrating to have people judge you for something that just feels natural for you. It's not as if you're doing anything wrong. Everyone involved in the relationship is happy, and comfortable with the situation. What's wrong about that?

Unfortunately, some people are just so close-minded that they can't understand how something like this could be okay. Because it's not exactly the norm, they might see it as wrong. I know this probably won't help, but the best thing you can do is ignore them. Or you could try raising awareness of polyamory, explaining what it is and isn't, and try and reduce prejudice against it? Just a thought.

Good luck with everything.