so i found a new girlfriend.......

[faded_tears]

hey, i found a new girlfriend who is lovely women to be with, we are both bisexual, and she has lots more experience with women than me, however there's just one kick ass problem she is married! call me an idiot for getting involved with a married women, but he treats her like shit she said she was planning to leave him before i came along, it's given her more motivation to do it. So now 4 weeks into the relationship/affair her husband has found out , apparently a friend of his saw us kiss.............now i dont know what to do xx

[Ali Baba]

If she is unhappy in her marriage it is up to her to end things. If she then decides to be with you that's great, if not you should find someone else who is single. You're not an idiot at all, the heart wants what it wants, I get that it hurts you to see her unhappy though but you need to give her space to sort herself out. Bear in mind that she is married to this man, she may not be happy with the marriage right now but at the end of it all, it is still a marriage, and many people are reluctant to just end marriages.

My advice is to try and get over this woman and find someone else. Easier said than done I know :/ but it will likely spare you a lot of pain. Anyways I hope it all works out for you.

[mae_kas]

I think you should put things on hold till she leaves her husband and starts a divorce. It does not mean that you have to be gone, or not support her if that's her decision but as Ali said marriages are marriages so unless she actually does it you won't know if she'll leave him for good. So it's better to wait until she sorts her problems and then see where you both are going, it's the wisest.

[Celestial.]

Hey Lisa.

Sounds like you're in a difficult situation. There are a number of ways you could go about this.

You could try talking to the husband, and seeing if you can sort things out with him. You could also try talking to your girlfriend, and seeing if you can come up with an arrangement. Or, you could leave it to the husband and wife to sort things out, and just give them time to do that.

Since I don't know you, or any of the other people involved, I can't tell you exactly what to do. Just do what you think is best, and see how things go.

Good luck.