Why the hell am I confused....Again?

[TheLittleNinja]

Haha, I think I've been over-thinking things, I mean my general moto is 'Go with the flow and see what happens' - But I wanted to get this out there, just to see if other people have experienced or feel the same way as me....

For about 2 years I've identified as Bi-sexual. However, recently, I've been finding myself less and less physically attracted to men. Like, If I'm honest, the thought of a penis, really doesn't turn me on. And, I don't look at guys and think 'Oh Yeah, I'd tap that' - like I once did.

However, I do still find the thought of 'sex' and 'kissing' another male a turn on - But I don't relate it to people I know or see or talk to. Its just the thought of sex itself that turns me on, not the person.

On the flip side to all this, women, oh, how I'd love to jump in bed with a girl! Yeah, basically girls turn me on - End of Story.

However (Lots of however's here...) I don't feel emotionally attracted to girls..... Or not much anyway....

I've thought about the Kinsey scale and I can't say I'd swing one way or the other at the moment...
So, I'm just confused haha. Any thoughts or opinions would be nice.

[TheCrowing]

I understand that you want to figure it out more, but like your motto.. you should go with the flow.

I know two sisters who are kind of like this. One is boy crazy, but loves making out with girls because they turn her on. Ask her to actually like a girl emotionally, not physically, and it just doesn't work for her. Her sister, though, loves girls but only likes to make out with guys, and that's about it.

I guess it's a bit difficult when you feel like you only like certain aspects of each, but maybe it's not necessarily the gender that you lean towards. There may be that one girl or guy where things will work out and you'll find yourself totally attracted to him/her. Maybe it's more of a -fall for the person, not for the gender- type situation for you?

[MusicFreakCaroline]

Oh lawd all I can say is I'm in the exact same boat as you are... except I really dont think "id tap that" to either gender... but thats just me being weird.... I try not to label myself and Im just gonna see where I feel like I am in a few years

[Boobies]

Originally Posted by TheLittleNinja

For about 2 years I've identified as Bi-sexual. However, recently, I've been finding myself less and less physically attracted to men. Like, If I'm honest, the thought of a penis, really doesn't turn me on. And, I don't look at guys and think 'Oh Yeah, I'd tap that' - like I once did.

However, I do still find the thought of 'sex' and 'kissing' another male a turn on - But I don't relate it to people I know or see or talk to. Its just the thought of sex itself that turns me on, not the person.

The penis isn't supposed to be a turn on, it's just a tool for sex, just like a bowl of food can make you hungry, but a spoon won't. I'm guessing anyway.
But the not thinking 'I'd tap that' just makes me think that your views on men have matured? And maybe that's what it is?

[SummerTiger]

I felt attracted to both genders in an abstract way back in high school, but I was never attracted to a specific boy or girl. Some were my friends, so I'd never think of them that way, ever. Others I had nothing in common with, or very little in common with, so I would never act on my attraction. Others I didn't know well enough.

But in college, I met a guy who is now my boyfriend. Point is, your sexuality can be fluid, especially up to a certain age. Personally, I wouldn't have sex with someone I don't love, so I look for that 'spark' or 'connection'. Had the personality of my boyfriend been placed in a girl's body, perhaps I would be going out with a girl now.

Try to be patient, and give this a lot of thought. I don't think there's a quick fix to the dilemma of who you're more attracted to, so waiting it out (or like you say, going with the flow) is the best piece of advice I can think of.

Hugs,

-Tiger