Triggering: im not confused

[Kira-Kira]

i was told im not bi im confused which i dont think im confused i feel for sure about this and i know who i love but some of my friends are like ok ur bi its fine u havent changed and otheres are like corrina ur just confused its just a stage u will grow out of it and then there are the ones that tease about it its just so damn annoying i want it all to stop it makes me with i didnt tell my friends only the ones that acceted me for what i am and not tel the ones that didnt accept me at all

[--.redpanda.--]

I know what it is like. I mean, I've been teased for a while about being bisexual. During the past few days, I've realized that I am straight gay. {More attracted to the same sex then the opposite.}

I've ignored the hate that I have received because of this. I've been teased, told I was lying, and told that it was a phase. Some people, yes, do grow out of it, but others don't. I've not grown out of it and I know I never will. People will tell you many things in your life, but in the end, you are the one to decide whether or not something is true about you. It is your life. This is your emotions. They don't know exactly what you feel, unless they have some super power that I have not yet come across.

You are the one that is going through this. They can't say that you aren't and they can't tell you that you are and you will be straight in the long run.

You can't really pick what sexuality you are and neither can I.

It does get annoying when you think you can trust someone and you can't. They use it against you and hurt you with it. I know it is painful, but one of these days, they are going to be gone from you life and you don't have to put up with them any longer. Don't listen to them. All they want is your attention. If you don't give them that, then you won't be teased as much. Don't give them the satisfaction.

That is all I can say about it and I hope that it helps.

[Alyssa Huizar]

You're still young and you don't know if your mind ever will change or not. Go with the moment. If at this point in time your confident that you are bi then you are, you're friends aren't the ones to say that you're just confused because you ought to know deep in your heart if what you feel is real or not.

As for the friends who are telling you that you're just confused or that you'll grow out of it, I think they may be saying this because they think you are the one who is worried about these feelings. Maybe some of them are just saying this to reassure you. If it bothers you then tell them that this is who you are and you accept it and you like yourself the way you are, if they are real and true friends then they will accept it as well.

[losing touch.]

people who don't accept you for who you are aren't your true friends. ignore anyone who has something negative to say. as long as you're comfortable with yourself it doesn't matter what other people think.

[Eldora]

Yup. Again with the 'Oh, bisexuals don't exist, it's just a stage' thing, I guess???

First of all: You don't need a label to define yourself and your feelings. You can either keep the label, or you can just ditch it and go out with whoever the heck you want to, male or female, and let others draw their assumptions.

Personally, I've never been told my bisexuality is 'just a stage', but I've been told a lot of other parts of my personality are only stages that I'll 'get over'. It's annoying as heck, isn't it? But you can never tell where you'll be in a few years.

For instance, one day you may be sitting in your living room, and an extremely rare bird might fly through your window, and you might sell it to a zoo, and become a millionare, and thus in a few years you might achieve your dream of going on a Carribean cruise (if that's your dream at all, which of course I wouldn't know whether or not it was).

Or, the bird might crash into a tree and die, and a random dead-bird-collecting little kid might point at it and say: "Ooh! Mommy! Look! It's a dead bird!" while you're still sitting in your living room watching Royal Carribean cruise liners sail across the ocean on Paid Programming, thus you never became a millionaire because of selling the bird to the zoo, thus you never achieved your dream of going on that beautiful, sunny Carribean cruise. And the little kid takes the bird home and gets to stuff it and whatnot, and becomes the millionaire, and gets to go on the Carribean cruise that you wanted to go on.

Now, to get more to the point, replace a girl with a bird-- I mean, the bird with a girl. Now, if a beautiful bisexual/lesbian girl knocked on your door right this instant trying to help her kid sister sell Girl Scout cookies to win a bicycle like on that one episode of iCarly, you might end up with a girlfriend and a partner for life, and thus you might be bisexual for life. However, if the bird -- being the other girl -- flies in the other direction, she might end up getting taken home by the little kid dead-bird-collector -- the boy/girl who gets to meet her instead of you -- and they might get the reward of being the millionaire -- and the million dollars, in this case, is getting to be the girl's partner for life.

To summarize: Things change according to your situation. In a couple years, your bisexuality might have actually been a stage that you didn't realize was a stage at the time, or you might be bisexual for life. But if you have feelings for cruise -- girls -- right now -- like you did when you were watching the cruise liners on Paid Programming in my hypothesis -- then odds are, you're bisexual. So if you're dreaming about girls then you're probably bisexual, at least for the moment.

Get what I'm saying?


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And I really, really should learn not to give advice past midnight...