What am I?

[Meagan Renee]

I. Am. Confused.
I don't know what to do or think because I'm very confused. I'm 16 and a Junior in high school. In grade school I always thought I was Bi and experimented with girls older than me. Well, I always told myself that it was a just a fase(sp?) and that I would grow out of it, so I just pushed the idea out of my head. But there is this girl that I've been talking to lately that I REALLY like. She told me she is Bi but she is dating a guy right now. She said it came so easily for her because she is absoloutly sure. I, on the other hand, am not.
I like girls. I like guys. I think? I mean, guys come off as attractive to me but girls are more appealing. Does that make me a Lesbian? Or Bi? I don't know what to think because I feel like I have no one to talk to. My older brother is Gay and he has came out to every one but I feel like I can't talk to him about it. He told me once that he wouldn't wish 'being Gay' on anyone. There are nights were I just cry because I'm so confused and I have no one to go to.
I just need help understanding...

[Believe.]

hang in there! i understand it's all very confusing but my personal experiece.... it doesn't help to think about it (for me) i don't think it has anything to do with logic, it has to do with affection and emotion. How do you feel? It's perfectly natural to prefur girls over guys =) AND i don't think your lesbian because you mentioned you are attracted to guys. Sometimes i'm not even sure i like a guy even when he himself knows. so try not to worry so much, i'm sure you'll figure yourself out soon, and until you do it might be good to srtay away from labels (for now!) =) I hope things get better for you, and it's soo sad you feel like there's no one to talk to, my names isabel. You can talk to me if you ever want to

[Ancora Imparo]

Hey Meagan,

I'm really sorry to hear that you're so confused right now but I think it's great that you have made this thread and decided to reach out for help from the members of this site and hopefully all of our replies will make you feel a little less confused and a little more comfortable with yourself.

Firstly, it's totally normal to be confused about your sexuality during your teenage years or for any other years of your life to be honest! There are so many people in the world who aren't sure about their sexuality and struggle with it so I promise you that you aren't alone. It's one of those things that you don't just make your mind up over night I guess, everyone is different, for some people they have known all their life and for some people it's a big struggle that takes them the longest time to figure out. You don't need to label yourself as anything though because labels are for soup cans. At the end of the day, love is love and you don't have to explain yourself by giving yourself a label to anyone because the relationships that you may have are between you and that other person, not the world and you don't have to explain it to them. I understand it's difficult but please try to not worry about it because it's one of these things that you'll figure out with time and not with the amount of time you spend worrying about it or thinking about it.

As for your brother, perhaps you don't need to sit him down and directly tell him that you're confused about your sexuality. Maybe you could just ask him questions in general about how did he know that he was gay? Perhaps you don't have to speak to him about it at all and there are other people that you know who have struggled with their sexuality who may be able to talk with you and help you.

I hope that I've been able to help you in one way or another anyway. If you would like to talk further about anything then feel free to PM or VM me whenever as I'm always more than happy to help where I can and talk about everything and anything.

Take care and keep smiling, things will be okay!

[aidensmommy]

Can't say anything that everyone hasn't already, just know that you can PM me anytime if you need someone to talk to, i've been there((: ha