confused! :/

[co_]

So, im 15. Im in a relationship with a lad, it hasn't been long and though i love him, i do know im not 'in love' with him. Even though i'm with him, i can't help but have feelings for one of my friends. I haven't done anything sexual with my boyfriend for at least a month. Yet, i have with my friend. Shes also in a relationship (which has been around 1 year 3 months), but shes always the one who comes onto me. She still says she doesn't want a relationship with me, and she thinks homosexuality is wrong. But why does she still feel the need to string me along? Both of my sisters are lesbians, and they came out around the age of 16/17. I don't know what to do.
Any one got any advice?

[Celestial.]

Hey there.

If you're comfortable with the relationship you're in, then that's what you should focus on. If you're having doubts about it, now's a good time to work through them, and decide whether it's worth staying. Even if you're not in love with him, there's always the possibility that you may be someday, and if you really love him now, that should be enough.

I suggest you talk to your friend. It's not fair for her to jerk you around like that, and it's not fair for both of you to be doing things like that while you're in relationships with other people. It'll be much better once things are out in the open.

This may mean you'll have to make a choice - her or him. It's not fair to anyone involved to keep going the way you are now, so you should do some serious thinking and decide what you want to do.

Good luck.

[co_]

Hey,
Thank you for the advice.
I've told my boyfriend everything, he was a little shocked at first, but he said that he's going to stand by me. He's said that even though i may be lesbian or bi or whatever, he'll always love me. I haven't got round to speaking to my friend yet, but as soon as i do, i'm going to be honest with her and tell her that we need to stop everything. I still have alot of thinking to do though.

[Celestial.]

Hi again.

I think it's great you were able to tell your boyfriend about it. He sounds like a very supportive person, and you're lucky to have him in your life.

Good luck talking to your friend; let us know how that goes.

Unfortunately, some things you just have to work out for yourself, like how you feel or what you want. That's where the thinking comes in. If it helps, you could write your thoughts and feelings down? That may help you sort them out.

All the best.