Am I bi sexual? Am I a lesbian? Errr, HELP!

[prettygirlswagg]

I like girls more than guys. But I've never done anything with a girl. And I have no clue who I could "experiment" with.

[Celestial.]

Hey there.

It's natural to be confused about things like this, especially if you're just beginning to consider the possibility that you might be attracted to both genders. The first bit of advice I'll give you is this: take your time. Don't rush into anything. I understand the desire to find a name for it, to be able to say, 'Yes, that's what I am, that's my orientation', but sometimes that can do more harm than good. It's okay not to know, and it's okay to not put a name to it.

It might take some time and some thinking to figure out who you're attracted to, but it's possible to be sure of your orientation without experimenting at all. And sometimes experimenting just adds to the confusion, or doesn't help you answer the question.

It might help to ask yourself some questions, like, are you attracted to both genders?; can you imagine yourself in a relationship with either gender?; does one feel better than the other?; have you had more crushes on boys or girls?

As for what to call yourself, I'd say just avoid labels, for now at least. You like who you like, and that's that. You don't have to rush out and announce that you're bisexual or a lesbian, or feel like you need to experiment in order to know. If something feels right, it probably is. Just go with it, and see where you end up.

Good luck.

[JustSomeone]

Oh I understand how you feel.

I've had these feelings for a long time. I consider myself to be bi, although I haven't really told anyone in real life. I'm 21 years old and sadly I haven't really ever had a relationship with a guy OR a girl, but I feel like i'm attracted more to girls and would want my first time to be with a girl

[Troubled_Heart]

I'm bi with a girl prefference... maybe you could find a GLBT thing at a community centre to meet people in a similar situation to you and talk...

[Enchanted ❧]

I too am bi..with preference to girls. I like Mellisa's suggestion about joining an LGBT community. However as far as determining yourself, you have to dig deep and give it some time. Only you will know. Don't rush to label yourself

[Sarahh9]

I dont think you need to label yourself right now. Righ tnow is the tie to experiemtn with who you are, so go out, have fun, and dont try to label yourself as one thing for now. Itll makes sense in a couple of years :P

[bryony1994]

Just be who you are, do what you want and if you want to call yourself bi then go ahead

[Mandiie&&NoahTanner]

The only label you need right now if you're asking, is Undecided. :3

[jessypoo]

with this subject, it's hard to maintain it stably. You're probably feeling guilty. Most people when they begin to feel sensual emotions for the same sex feel bad. You feel like you're doing something that's completely against the rules. It takes a bit to get used to and with being bisexual it makes relationships a lot harder. Most people don't exactly like the idea of bisexuality because you can always change your mind about liking girls. It's very hard for others to understand and accept. Yes, we are being accepted a lot more than before but not to the point of acceptance that there should be. All you can do right now is experiment but make sure you're not hurting someone who sees you dear to your heart. :]

[--.redpanda.--]

I completely understand. I used to think I was bi with a preference towards males, but then I found that I was more attracted to girls. I was dreaming about them and had more stability with females and more of an attraction. I tries to feel something with a male by having sex, but I felt fake really. It is then when I discovered that I was a lesbian and not bi. If you haven't had something like that, just wait and join a LGBT community close to you. You can seriously find people there that can relate to you in the long run.

[Intoxication]

Just to give you a sense of someone knowing where you're coming from, I came out as bi, and then said, bi-curious, because I've never gone beyond a quick kiss (nothing more then 2 seconds) with either a guy or a girl, therefore not knowing what having a sexual experience with either one is like. I have kissed both, and, well, I kinda liked them both(: Right now, in my humble opinion, I wouldn't recommend having a real sexual experience with a guy or a girl to see which one you like better... but I kissed my best girl friend just to see what it was like. Just experiment, and know that whatever you choose is you, and you are beautiful either way(: