confusing shiz! help moi? :)

[TakeMeHigher]

so heres the deal, sorta started experimenting, like both girls and guysss.
But how can i call myself bi when
1.) I don't necessarily 'fancy' girls? - I don't look at a girl thinking ooo wouldn't mind a bit of that, buttt would do with a guy? aha... saying thiss... I wouldn't 'mess around' with a girl that was say below my standards? hmm confusing.
2.) I deffoooo can't see myself in a relationship with a girl. maybe thats because im young and i haven't experienced a whole lot quite yet.

ALSO
You only call having sex with a guy when yano his bit goes in your bit ;D tehee... sooooo when do girls define sex? unless they use *cough* toys. but still, thats not even proper sex? aha

OPINIONS

[Soliloquy]

Hi Lucy,

Labels can be a tricky thing sometimes. If you find that aren't necessarily attracted to girls, it could be that you aren't bi but straight. However, only you would know that. What do you mean by not wanting to mess around with a girl "below your standards?" As in, a girl you aren't attracted to? If that is what you meant, I would say that is normal. Physical attraction does play role in relationships and with people you're just "messing around" with, and if you and the other person don't have any real emotional connection (you're not in a relationship and are just experimenting), then I would say physical attraction is probably important. If you don't like the person that you're messing around with, it most likely won't be as pleasurable an experience for either of you.

Remember that being bi doesn't mean you will be attracted to every girl you see. There may be some girls that don't necessarily tickle your fancy, but in the long run, that doesn't always mean you aren't attracted to the female gender. Think of it this way, you aren't attracted to every guy you see, right? Well, it works the same way with girls.

As for being in a relationship with a girl, some people who identify as bi can't really see themselves in an actual relationship with the same gender. For you, it could mean that you haven't met the right girl yet, it could mean you're straight, or it could mean that you're bi with a romantic preference for guys. Labels are pretty flexible and people often tweak them to better fit how they feel. Some people don't even label themselves.

I would recommend that you take some time and not rush into labels just yet. You still have time to figure this all out.

As for your question regarding sex, the definition of "lesbian sex" really varies. I'm not going to go into much detail, but some people would say it's penetration using toys, others oral, and some something different. At the end of the day, I don't think there is really a such thing as "proper" sex, as couples may see sex differently and thus go about it in a different way.

Take care! I hope this helps!

[TakeMeHigher]

thanks very much x