I just want to be me.

[Out of the dark.]

Why can't I just be me? I'm tired of pretending to be someone else, or having to be two different people. I'm one person, and so what if that one person happens to be gay, or, gasp, a lesbian. My mum told me that Lesbian was a bad word and that I shouldn't call myself that. She also told me that when I came home for summer break, that I should just go to church with them (I'm pagan/wiccan) and that I would have to just not be gay. I'm sorry, but how can I not be gay? I don't know what to do anymore. Sorry for the rant.

[colie18]

No worries.. I understand completely you should just be yourself! Don't listen to your mom...you are you for a reason so don't let anyone tell you otherwise! love yourself and who you are and others will to... and if they don't then they don't understand YOU! I am here whenever my ears are always open!

[Caring and Capable]

I completely agree with Nicole! You should stop letting anybody decide who you should be and just be yourself!!! It will truly make you a lot happier.

Its probably just difficult for your mom to understand, but being gay is not a choice, you cannot just be gay and say oh I dont want to be gay anymore so I will just stop, it doesnt work like that and hopefully in time she will understand and accept it

If you need anything, dont hesitate to PM me!

[Sythan]

The Earth is your church my sister, and your destiny is your own. We must accept the fact that there are still people who cling to old hatred and superstition.

Your sexuality is a gift from Her, do not turn it away, embrace it, be who you truly are, not what others want you to be.

[Celestial.]

Hey Kami.

Sorry to hear your mother didn't react well. It can be frustrating when people think you can just choose or change your sexuality, not realising that it's something you can't control.

You shouldn't have to pretend to be someone or something you're not, and you have every right to be yourself - and who you are is just fine, no matter which gender/s you happen to be attracted to.

I'd suggest sitting down with your mother and calmly explaining the situation. Maybe find some pamphlets or leaflets to give to her, so she has a bit of information about what it means to be gay or pagan. She may have misleading ideas about them, so the more she understands, the more accepting she should be.

Good luck!

[Reverie.]

Heyy,

Sorry this is happening to you. You totally should be able to be yourself. It can put you back a bit to be told these things, but it could simply be that your mum didn't realise. It could be a reaction made out of shock, in which case, perhaps a calm talk with her can put things right.

Like you said, you want to be you. This shows that you will still be you, and that you will not be a different person and your mum will still have her daughter. Tell her this. If she's not keen on the idea of homosexuality she may not understand that you will be the same person as ever. If this is the case, reassuring her that you will continue to be yourself, may put her mind at rest.

Whatever happens, we are all behind you here. We understand how you're feeling, and we're here for you. If you ever want to talk/rant/have someone listen to you, be sure to shoot me a PM and I'll be that person. I'm always happy to help, so never think you can't. Take care and keep smiling! Have a lovely day.

[Michaela *heartbroken*]

You should be able to be yourself. It's wrong for people to decide who you are to be. Your mother should be proud of who you are, not making you hide who you really are. There is nothing wrong with being a Lesbian. I have a few friends who are lesbians and they are just like anybody else.

I am sorry you are having to go through this, hope things get better for you soon my friend.

<3

[enfantreve]

You are you. I'm sorry your mum doesn't get that. The most you can do is keep that part of you separate from the part of you that spends time with your mum. My mum is the same way "That's who you are, but I don't want to see it or hear about it." "When you're around me, you're straight!" Things like that. It sux but it's the only way.