Need help coming out!

[Sydney...]

Okay, so next week I'm meeting with my school district's psychologist for the 3rd time. I went to her twice this week after asking a trusted teacher of mine to help me get help. The two days that I talked to her we just kind of got to know each other and I talked a little bit about my family and what not. The main reason I needed to go to her was to try to get some help with accepting myself for who I am, and to get the support needed to keep moving forward. Next week I want to try to talk to her about my sexuality, but I have no idea how to word anything. I don't really want to just come out and say, "I'm gay, help me." If anyone could help at all I'd really appreciate it ♥

[Aletheia*]

Hey Sydney,

Your best option for you is to just come out and say "I am a lesbian. I would like to get help [enter reason for help here]. The woman your speaking to has spoken to lot's of people about issues, so don't feel like this is the first or last time she's going to hear it. It's normal to feel uncomfortable opening up about who you truly are, but taking the chance will help. People often surprise you.

I wish you the best of luck <3

[--.redpanda.--]

We can't exactly tell you how to come out or anything. That is your choice ultimately.

I couldn't even tell my mother straight up. She had to pry it from me. I mean...she had to talk it out of me for hours because I couldn't accept it.

I didn't tell my father. My mother did that for me, but he never really talks about it. Only my mother seems to want to talk about it.

Anyways, coming out to a psychologist isn't like ripping off a bandaid. Most likely they will want to know why you think you are that way and try to dig deeper into your feelings. They will ask you if you are okay with it and if you're not, which from the looks of it you aren't, they will ask you why not. Being honest with your psychologist is not only helpful to them, but also helpful for yourself. If you push it back and repress the fact that you don't like being gay in a respect, then you will end up hating yourself for the rest of your life. It will not be pleasant. I suggest talking about something that might edge into the subject and then figure out how you will bring it up from there.

I am usually the one to wing it, but with this I suggest being careful.

Yes, today's society is more accepting, but there are those few that will not accept it.

[Celestial.]

Hi Sydney.

I think it's great that you're willing to be open about this with your counsellor. I know talking about it can be hard, especially if you're not yet comfortable with the idea of being same-sex attracted, but it can really help. When I told my counsellor about my sexuality, she gave me some helpful resources, and I felt better afterwards.

How it happened for me was that my counsellor actually asked. She was talking about what sorts of things young people may struggle with, and asked if each applied to me. When she got to the one about questioning your sexuality, I bit the bullet and just said that I had been. So, if you wanted to, you could wait and see if she brings it up, because she very well might.

You could also just start off with, 'There's been something on my mind', and go from there. You don't have to use the word lesbian or gay; just say you feel attracted to girls, and that you're having trouble dealing with that. She might ask you what the main reason you wanted to see her was, and you could tell her then, or if she asks what's on your mind, tell her. Basically, start off general, and then when she asks about it, tell her as best you can. You can phrase it however you like: 'I like girls', 'I'm questioning my sexuality', 'I don't think I'm straight'. Whatever works for you.

If you don't feel comfortable telling her face-to-face, you can write it in a letter and give that to her. It's an effective way to get your concerns across, without worrying that you'll back out or stumble over words.

I wish you all the best with this. Let us know how it goes.

[Jaguar]

I think you can and should be open with your counselor. She is certainly going to be familiar with what you're going through. But you shouldn't come out until you are in a place where you can deal with the possible negative reactions from friends and family and with the possible bullying you might get. I think she's going to tell you that.

[EndureEmo]

tell her how it is, she will accept who you are, and after than everyone elce will accept you too. just accept it yourself and others will flow

i came out to my friends first as a bisexual. they suported me, and soon after that everyone accepted it, i may have lost a friend or two but who cares, they didnt know the reall me they dont matter if they cant cope with it, im better of with out them

[Veronica1986]

They're here to help, and so are we