Coming out in and college

[TheCrowing]

This is more or less my way of throwing my thoughts out there. Lately a lot of posts on here have had to do with how sexuality has messed up a lot for many of us, and sure, it has.. but it's totally different here in college.

Of course I still didn't tell my roommate, but over the past 4 days, I met some awesome people, most who know that I like girls. And it feels really good to be able to be open about it. I thought that a lot of people would shun me. Especially because I'm a girl going to an engineering school where 70-80% are guys here. Everyone comes from all around the world, and it's great though. We had this huge discussion about how my roommate is either never in my room, or she's always in a towel or getting undressed. So as a comment to me saying how my roommate was almost naked in front of me.. This one girl that knew I liked girls was like "That awkward moment when your roommate doesn't know you like the ladies." And everyone in our group of 14 or so laughed and nobody commented against it. They all started recognizing it though, so instead of them saying "Oh, so you like any guys?", it was more of a "So, you like anyone?"

It just felt good to be able to find a group of people here that are so accepting. I'm not very open about my sexuality verbally, but I was able to tell two more people last night, and they just said.. "Oh.." and continued on talking to me about girls and guys but when they directed it at me it was gender neutral.

I guess what I'm saying is that it definitely gets better. So much better. Even though my 4 year relationship has temporarily come to a close, I just feel so much happier. I feel like I might finally have control.

So for all of you in school that are having issues, give it time.
To all of you going into college, or in college, give it time.

Things will really work themselves out in the end. I only made friends so early because my best friend goes here with me, and a lot of his friends are just like him: crazy, fun and open-minded. (Aka.. we've been here for less than a week at a tech school that is known for having no social life, and most people around here have either been out every night partying or diner hopping.. or in their rooms with large groups of people.. I don't think anyone has really fallen asleep before 2am these past few days. I've been falling asleep around 4/5am, and waking up at 7am for orientation every day. Lol.)

I even really like this girl (Said friend with the "That awkward moment.." comment), and it's been years since I've liked anyone other than my girlfriend. I mean, it sucks that she likes her suitemate, but oh well.. Someday. =] <3

Have hope and give yourself time.

[Soliloquy]

Thanks so much for sharing this with us! I'm so glad that you've had such a positive experience! I know that this gives me a sense of hope, as I will be going to college next year and coming out is something that has been on my mind as well!

I hope everything continues to go well!