Disheartened

[The Devil's Advocate ??]

Well...In a previous thread I made, I told of how I was "accidentally" outed, yes ? Well that was just to some of my peers...to my family...that was something I was waiting to do until I was completely financially dependent...but now...I don't think I ever can...so i picked the movie we would watch tonight, and I picked my all-time favorite Brokeback Mountain...and all I heard the whole way through was joke after homophobic joke, and I even seriously asked my dad what he thought of gays and lesbians...and he seriously replied he hated them and found them deserving of hangin...and I couldn't help but laugh because if only he knew... xD so I don't think I could ever come out to them...but hey, the closets not that dark anymore...just gotta watch myself right ?

[Soliloquy]

Hey there,

In response to your other thread, if it makes you uncomfortable being outed as strictly a lesbian, maybe you want to step in and say something. I know you said that it made your ex feel a little bit better about your break-up (for whatever reason ), but remember that you need to do whatever you feel most comfortable with. If you don't want people to think that you're a lesbian, you have a right to correct them. I don't know how old you are, or when you're leaving your school, but being known as a lesbian could also limit you to only girls when it comes to future dating. Maybe at some point, you'll want to try guys again. You never know. You could just say that you choose not to classify your sexuality, but that you are looking to date or experiment with girls at the present time.

As for your family situation, I'm very sorry to hear that. Having parents who think so little of the LGBT community must be really hard. If you don't think your parents will react well to the news, you might want to wait until you're financially independent before you tell them, like you said. But, do you think there could be a chance that your family hears something from your peers? If so, you might actually want to tell them first. Although they might not react too much better, I'm sure they'd rather hear it from you than from some kid at school. No matter what happens, be careful. I know it may feel like you can never come out to them, and whether you end up doing so is up to you, of course. Maybe sometime in the future you will feel more comfortable with the idea. Even if your parents don't end up liking it, you might want them to know because it's such a big part of yourself. It's all about what you feel best with.

Hang in there! I'm sorry you're going through such a tough time right now!

[The Devil's Advocate ??]

I've only got a year until I plan on moving out...but you're right, theres a (veryveryvery) slim chance they could hear something...So I decided to tell explain the real situation to my ex...he took it alright :P And it was an (insanely) good idea to do what you said...because I ended up getting back with one of my exes...and its a he ^^" which would have been terribly hard to explain to everyone who would have thought me lesbian lol so now I'm free to be with either sex, and I like that :P I thank you a lot, and I apologize for not being able to reply sooner...It's been crazy lol

[Soliloquy]

So glad that I was able to help! If you need anything else, just let me know!