GSA

[Rooni3]

This probably sounds really stupid but I'm about to join my schools GSA club next week and I'm scared to death. I was up for hours last night just thinking about it and worrying myself to the point of tears. I'm not sure what it will be like when other people find out that I'm a lesbian. I'm scared. I don't even know if its that serious but I want to meet other people that I have things in common with and have people that support and understand me. My fear of people knowing (I'm not exactly open with my sexuality) is tearing me apart. Idk if its worth it..I'm really afraid.

[Skeleton]

I'm sure some of the people in the GSA felt the same but you said yourself, they will most likely understand and support you so if you do join and you have any problems, they'll be there for you because they probably experience similar things.

I think if it's something you want to do, then you shouldn't worry what others will think and do it, it might turn out to be better then you expected it to go.

[Sythan]

Hey Rooni3,

You have nothing to be scared about, GSA's are a safe space for everyone, whether your LGBT or not. You will meet people with things in common, a place where you will gain support, you aren't the only one. You may even find yourself helping someone else through any issues they have as well. Coming out can be a scary process, but be who you are, and don't be afraid of what others might think, you are your own person. It's totally worth it to get involved with your schools GSA, it will change your life for the better, trust me, it did for me

If you have any more questions about the school GSA's, the GSA Network as a whole, please don't hesitate to contact me.

[TheCrowing]

Honestly, if it worries you that much, you don't have to tell anyone. The best part about GSA's is the confidentiality, and the fact that their supposed to be creating a safe space. So if you want to be out there with your sexuality, by all means, that's great.. but if you just want to go and not put it out there, that's great too. In my GSA, when we did introductions and such.. if you want to say your sexuality you can, but there's no pressure to.

[Rooni3]

Yeah that's true. No one is forcing me to come out. Its just a matter of if its healthy or not to keep it in (because that's really a problem for me) and actually saying it out loud because that's something I've never done before. And both of these scenarios freak me out equally because showing any kind of negative emotion to other people is like my phobia. But at the same time I should be getting over my fears...idk its all very conflicting! :/

[TheCrowing]

Honestly, some people will be okay, some won't.. but will you be okay either saying it or not saying it? When I moved in to my dorms, I was afraid of letting people know, because it's a new environment, and I didn't want to be "That gay girl". I didn't want it to be just like coming out in high school was like for me. =P But after a day or two, I opened up, and honestly, it was awesome. I think that you should do what feels good in the moment. Go to these events, and if you get a good vibe, let it out. If not, hold onto it for a little longer.

[Rooni3]

Wow, that's actually a great idea. It seems so simple. Thanks so much!

[zombiehunterforhire]

it's not bad at all....im in my schools GSA and some kids are open about who they are and some arent but all in all no body will judge you for who you are. PM me if ya need to talk about it.
-Alex

[Rooni3]

Does GSA ever get like emotional?

[Sythan]

Originally Posted by Rooni3

Does GSA ever get like emotional?

Sometimes it does, if a members needs to get something off their chest, or they need some serious help with an issue, it can get emotional.

[Rooni3]

Is it ever the center of the club meeting? Or like the subject? From what you've experienced.

[TheCrowing]

Depends on the day, and the mood of the group that day. At least in my experience, we've had more fun days than emotional ones.

[Sythan]

Originally Posted by Rooni3

Is it ever the center of the club meeting? Or like the subject? From what you've experienced.

Being emotional really isn't the center of every meeting, unless it perhaps ties in with a Day of Action like National Coming Out Day or Freedom to Marry Day, both of which can cause emotions to run high in GSA Clubs, but I wouldn't expect it to happen often.

[Loving Linux Penguin]

Hey.

Don't worry, I was honestly kinda scared of coming out to my GSA too. But it's absolutely okay. There's nothing to be afraid of. Many of them probably identify as LGBT as well, so they aren't going to judge you. It's gonna be ok.

[Rooni3]

You guys are right. For some reason I have this irrational fear that its something you have to get accepted/fit into..like typical high school stuff. Its an irrational fear, I know, but hopefully everything will run smoothly!
Tomorrow the clubs are getting new members so I'm super anxious and excited to see what it brings to my life and all the new people I'll meet. You all are great help and I'm feeling more optomistic now that I have a better idea of what to expect (:

[darkxdreamer13]

Hey. I had the same problem and I just got involved with it last year through friends. It's kind of awkward at first, well, it was for me, but you get to hear other people's stories.
I think it'd be good for you, I really should get more involved with mine myself, but remember. You don't need to tell anyone anything you don't want to. Best of luck!

[Rooni3]

Originally Posted by darkxdreamer13

Hey. I had the same problem and I just got involved with it last year through friends. It's kind of awkward at first, well, it was for me, but you get to hear other people's stories.
I think it'd be good for you, I really should get more involved with mine myself, but remember. You don't need to tell anyone anything you don't want to. Best of luck!

Thank you for the encouragement! I really shouldn't be so afraid. From what I've heard from you and others, its a really welcoming environment! I think I even know a lot of the people in it which helps a lot! Lol