My girlfriend has a boyfriend...

[cleostar09]

and i am not ok with that anymore. She's bi and has been dating him longer than she has been dating me. She is my best friend. We've known each other for 12 years but just started dating this year. When we started dating I knew she was "dating" this guy. I saying "dating" because he doesn't even live here, he is in England. She took him from another girl and she gets upset when he talks to her but yet she's cheating on him with me. Whenever we hang out she's glued to her phone texting him. I NEVER have her full attention. I feel like the other woman and it hurts. I don't want to share her but I feel like I need to just walk away from her. I feel like she is being greedy by dating both of us. She opens up emotionally to him more than me too. I feel like they have the "better relationship" so I should just move on and find someone else right? Thing is, she's my best friend. I don't want to lose our friendship but i don't want to lose my mind either... :/

[Jaguar]

It's going to hurt but the three of you have to sit down and work it out. I think I know a lot of how you feel since my gf is bi and has a gf. It took the three of us (mostly me) a lot of work to come to terms with it, and I got some insights from someone here, which helped. It all depends on how committed you are to making it work. It can, or you can get jealous and end it. It'll be your decision.

I'll be happey to talk about how we make it work if you want to pm me.

[bitesize]

I think, like Jaguar said, you need to all sit down and talk about it...otherwise I would advise that you break things off with her. I've been in her position before and found it very difficult and it was definitely very hard on the girl (mostly because I was keeping her a secret.) In the end it was just easier for us to end things. I think you should be with someone that you can have all of. If she's your friend as well as your girlfriend she's understand this.

[cleostar09]

I will sit down with her and talk, but i don't want to make her choose. Half because I don't want to do that to her and half because I think she'll choose him. Im not into polyamory so to keep dating her isn't going to work.

[.TJ.]

Just because you're bi does not mean you can date more than one person at a time. She is cheating on you and him. It is black and white here.

[Skeleton]

I think it's best that you walk away from it, she may be your best friend and there isn't any reason as to why you can't stay friends afterwards but unless you're both okay with it, it's unfair on both of you to be cheating on both of you with the other. She has to choose one of you and if you feel she'll choose him over you then I think it's best to call it quits and just move on.