A dream

[Tiffany79582]

well i had this dream where i was dating this girl in pe class shes really cute and funny ive never thought of her as a crush before but i see her every day and i cant help but smile...no one knows im les but my bestfriend but shes not in the class with me...idk what i should do shes not bi and she has a boyfriend

[Peppermint Tea.♥]

Hey there, Tiffany.

I've had this exact same thing before. I dreamed about a girl in my class and that triggered a crush, and unfortunately she was straight. It's painful, but it's not possible to turn someone else gay.

If you have the confidence, you could try talking to her. See if she is definitely straight, or is in any way unsure. However, as she has a boyfriend it may be best not to interfere.

It's perfectly fine to have a crush on someone when you're young, not every person you crush on is going to turn into a relationship. So long as the crush isn't taking over your life and you still notice other people, then just let it run its course. It's likely you'll get over it. We usually do when we know we can't have someone.

I wish you all the best, and I hope I helped a little.

x

[Tiffany79582]

you did help thankyou and she just broke up with her bf but lately shes been huggin me more and laying her head on my shoulder

[Jaguar]

If she hugs you and lays her head on your shoulder I definitely think you can talk to her about her feelings about bisexuality. If she's open to the idea then you can tell her about your feelings. Yeah, there's a risk in any possible relationship of getting shot down but if you never risk anything you never gain anything.

[Tiffany79582]

your right thanks ill talk to her tomorrow

[Dr.Bobby]

Wait!

She had a boyfriend. Don't confuse your needs and wishes to see her as 'available' to you with whatever else might be going on with her! You don't know that, you do not have enough info to make a valid assessment. She could be just friendly, girls are far more demonstrative without any overt sexual intentions!

My advice? Just enjoy her and her attention for what it is without necessarily risking losing it by coming out to her prematurely. She may or may not be bi, but it's always best to wait until you know someone a bit better before divulging something that could have such detrimental effects on what sounds like the nice beginnings of a nice friendship. In time, everyone eventually shares that stuff, anyways, just when there's a context of a relationship (or friendship). Work on that first, do something to control your own crushing feelings in the mean time!

[Tiffany79582]

ok thankyou

[Tiffany79582]

found out for sure today shes 100% straight

[*Learningtobreathe*]

AW I'M SORRY. tht sux babe.

[Soliloquy]

I'm so sorry to hear that, Tiffany! I know that it must hurt. Try to remember, however, that you were very brave for wanting to pursue this and get to the bottom of your feelings. That's huge! Even though it didn't turn out as you might have liked, give yourself a big pat on the back for taking these steps forward. Sometimes we have to step outside our comfort zones a little bit to get what we want, and even then, it doesn't always work out. Take some time to grieve over knowing that this girl is straight, and then try to move forward with the understanding that you did something fabulous for yourself.

Since your initial question has been answered, I'm going to go ahead and close this thread. Feel free to PM me if you'd like it reopened!