Coming Out

[msfsteven]

I've been wanting to come out, and could care less what people think,
but I don't want my parents to find out. I'm not ready to tell them.
What do you think I should do? Has anyone had this problem?

[crissy97]

yes i hve but all u hve to do is tell them that it is your life

[Iris. ♥]

Why don't you want your parents to know? Would they disapprove? The truth is, they're going to find out one way or another. It's your life though. You should be free to fall in love with whoever it is that makes you happy. I've always believed that love should be a matter of the heart, not the gender. You just need to figure out some way to share this with them. Be as gentle as possible, stay calm if arguments start, and answer any questions they might have about why you've made this decision. Coming out takes a lot of courage, so the fact that you're going to should definitely be commended. Good luck with everything.

[Astrael]

i would suggest comming out to youre close friends first because you can trust them the most. then when you get more comfortable, tell your parents. They WILL find out eventually and its best from them to hear from you but only once youre ready. maybe start introducing people you're dating as good friends?

[Sythan]

Hey Steven,

Coming out is a big deal, and if you worry about a certain group of people, ie. your family, finding out, it's really best to stick with really close friends who you know won't care and will support you. You can also join a Gay-Straight Alliance club at your school if you have one. Sometimes they go by other names like Rainbow Alliance or the Inclusive Club, there you can find people just like you, and who will support you.

[msfsteven]

Thanks everyone. It's still all a tough decision that I will probably take forever to make.

[Sythan]

It's fine if you take forever, it's whatever you feel comfortable with.

[Pandaloo]

When I thought I was gay (I'm trans, but I used to think I was a lesbian), everybody knew apart from my parents. I told my close friends, and didn't mind who they told, I was free about it at school. My parents still don't know I like women, they don't know I'm trans but that's besides the point.
I chose not to tell them because they are very strict and I was certain that if they knew I was gay, they'd treat me harshly. And since I live with them, I'd have to endure it.
So if you want to be out to everyone but your parents thats okay, just do what you think is comfortable. (And be careful tat your parents don't find out in a bad way!)

[msfsteven]

Thanks Nick and thanks for the advice Riley!

[CuddleBear1719]

I'm having the same problem. I'm bisexual, i just figued this out like 3 months ago. I live with my cuzin, she found and was cool with it, but my mom will freak and so will my dad. I mean i dont live with them but i dont wanna hide my ture self. Some friends at my new school know, but im scared to tell everyonee, even though my school has a lot of L,G,B,T. In it. Advice?

[CutewitouttheE14]

to be honest, comeing out was the hardest thing i did and to tell my parents...well i kinda just let them find out on their own...maybe thats what you should try? not telling them but letting them ask you..

[Roy-kun231]

Like Samantha said, they'll find out eventually. Man, I remember how my parents found out; they found some pictures I drew.