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Red face Flirting with older woman! Need advice! - October 31st 2011, 05:19 AM

So I'm 19 & in college. I identify myself as bi-sexual. I've been in a relationship for about a year now & have just broken up with my girlfriend. So for some reason I always find myself being attracted to older women Its just something about them that really attracts me. Theirs this lady in my class who like 10 years older than me who I really like. We're always flirting with each other& smiling at each other. She gives me crazy butterflies!! I really just want to know if I should go for it. Like I know she's into me & I'm into her but I'm just afraid. I'm not looking for anything to replace what I had just for some fun. Any advice?!

Is anyone else into dating people older than them? I feel like I'm the only one. Lol
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Re: Flirting with older woman! Need advice! - October 31st 2011, 06:30 AM

I also have a tendency to take interest in older people. Lots of people seem to do date older people. I guess i'd just take it really slow... Find out who she is before you start investing in the relationship too much. I've always found it kind of weird when people who are very much adults take interest in people who are just becoming one. I've heard many people argue that it can work out if you have a lot of common interests. I'd just make sure she doesn't try and take advantage of you or anything.

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Re: Flirting with older woman! Need advice! - October 31st 2011, 06:43 AM

I think that as long as you're both consenting adults and no one is uncomfortable about the age difference, then there isn't a problem. I had a girlfriend who was 9 years older than me... And the reason we are no longer together has nothing to do with the age difference.

If you're both happy, then I don't see a problem.

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Re: Flirting with older woman! Need advice! - October 31st 2011, 03:53 PM

You're 19 and an adult. It doesn't matter how much older she is than you. If you're both attracted to each other then that's all that's important. Now go for it.

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Re: Flirting with older woman! Need advice! - November 2nd 2011, 04:45 AM

You are not along in dating older people; I've dated someone who was 27 when I was 19 and someone who was 37 when I was 19. I've been sexually attracted to people of all ages, some of them in their sixties. So you are not alone.

The way I see it, she likes you and you like her. There's not anything standing in your way except your own fear. If you can master that fear, and overcome it, you could take a chance to make something great. So don't be scared; just go for it.

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