i need a reply fast

[snowman]

I'm16, I'm a transgendered male so I am a female in my mind and a boyoutside, I wanna tell my mom today when she gets home so I can go see a therapist to get hormones, but I need a good way to tell her and her not flip

[Roy-kun231]

The correct term is transwoman, but that's beside the point

You should just be honest with her. A good way to tell her might be to write her a note.

[MacGuffin]

First of all, I would think this out before you actually tell her. Plan what you are going to say, write a letter if you need to; but don't do this on a whim. It's a big decision. We can't tell you what to say, other than to be open and honest; the rest is up to you. It's about approach and timing, basically. So when she gets home from work probably is not the best time, for example. You'll want to wait until she is relaxed and open.

[deadlyninjabee]

I'm transgender, too.
The first time I tried to tell my mother it was a disaster, not to discourage you, but I kinda rushed into it and I didn't exactly know what I was saying and I'm just not very good with words. So. I waited a week or two, then wrote her a letter. And she was really supportive.
I personally hate talking about it and I'm dreading the hormones talk because I'm really.. embarrassed, for lack of a better word.

But as for the hormone thing, I would tell her first and give her a while. It's a lot to take in. And hormones aren't something you can jump into anyway, you might have to see a gender therapist first and... It's a lot of stuff I don't know much about, frankly. That may be why I'm putting it off.

[lost_soul]

Hey there,

It's a big thing to tell your mum that you're transgendered and it will come as quite a shock to her I imagine. She's gone through life thinking she has a son so it will take a while for her to accept that she may need to alter her perceptions and accept that she has a daughter.

You need to put a fair bit of thought into how you're going to tell her. A few people mentioned letters and I think that's a great idea. It's easier to express yourself through writing when it comes to such awkward/potentially embarrassing subjects. You won't have to worry about missing out on things and forgetting important points, or stuttering on your words.

If you'd rather tell her in person, you need to come up with some kind of a speech beforehand, so you know exactly what you want to say to her. You should also consider all of her possible reactions and be prepared to handle all of them.

Good luck, you'll be ok. Don't rush this and don't pressure your mum into getting hormones and therapy and whatnot really fast. She will need some time to let everything sink in first, she'll need some time to accept this new reality and only after she's accepted it will you be able to approach her successfully about hormones. Just be patient, no matter how hard it is.