Sex Change

[theawesomeman]

Ive looked it up and ive saw videos of past operations and posible outcomes, best case scenarios, worst case scenarios, etc. Ive wanted a sex reassignment surgery for almost a year. Im just wondering should i tell my parents i want one? Should i just go get one with the money i saved? And most importantly should i tell anyone im gay? And if anyone here has had one how did it turn out and how did you tell people and ask your parents? My plan if my parents don't let me get one is when i turn 19 to move to France and get one there. Does that sound good/bad/crazy? Please answer all my questions.

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[Jaguar]

I think it's waaaaay to soon to make that decision. You may decide you like girls long before then.

[Astrael]

I'd say wait, odds are the doctors wouldnt do it till youre about 18. (That's when you wouldn't need parental consent, which I'm sure you'ld need, for any surgury.) Besides, when I was your 13 I still didn't even know half of what I know about myself now. relax, if you still want it in a few years, go for it. If not, then waiting was a good idea.

[thefirstlady]

What everyone else has said so far is right. After wanting it for a year and being 13 is way too soon to make that kind of a decision. As much as waiting will suck, it's best not to rush into something like this, and your ability to go through it in the future won't change. There's a process you have to follow anyway when it comes to sex change operations such as: therapy, hormones, living as your true gender for at least a year, etc.

[theawesomeman]

why dont you guys think i should get one now?

[tehpervyone]

Originally Posted by thefirstlady

What everyone else has said so far is right. After wanting it for a year and being 13 is way too soon to make that kind of a decision. As much as waiting will suck, it's best not to rush into something like this, and your ability to go through it in the future won't change. There's a process you have to follow anyway when it comes to sex change operations such as: therapy, hormones, living as your true gender for at least a year, etc.

This^^

Your just 13,you could be going through a phase.And the min age for a sex change is 18.

[thefirstlady]

Originally Posted by theawesomeman

why dont you guys think i should get one now?

First of all, you are only 13. It's not even legal for you to undergo this procedure. You still have to go through at least a year of therapy, a year of dressing as your true gender, hormones, not to mention the OK of the therapist saying you really are a candidate for sex change and that it isn't a phase once you reach the legal age. You're still growing physically and emotionally as a person. You may or may not feel this way in a few years. That is why it is best for you to wait. Not saying once it's legal you shouldn't go for it. By all means, if you still feel this way when you are of age, after therapy, hormones, and dressing as your true gender for a year, I'm all for it. Do what makes you happy and comfortable with yourself; but this is something you want to be 100% certain about because once it's done, it's done.

[Lottie]

I would seriously recommend talking to your parents/someone you trust- this is because this situation can be very stressful and worrying for yourself. One of my close friends who is a lot older than you is going through the same situation. Have you tried going to see someone about body dysmorphia? I'm not saying you need therapy because you want a sex change. It just helped my friend a lot as it made him think really hard about what he wanted. Go to your Doctor and let them know how you're feeling and they'll point you in the right direction for some support. Also before you get the hormones you'll need to live as the preferred gender for a year- at least!

At the young age of 13 I would generally say it's far too young and i'm not saying that you'll grow out of it. It's just that you'll be able to deal with the changes a lot more when you're older.

There are also lots of support groups set up to help younger people who have gender identity issues and who identify under the LGBT umbrella.

[Soliloquy]

Hey there!

I just wanted to add on to what other people have said. Remember that there are various stages to changing sexes. Just because you may not be legal to get a sex change now does not mean you can't start experimenting and dressing as what you feel is your true self! I would look into options that don't include surgery at the moment, such as chest binding if you're FtM. There are still ways that you can pass as the opposite gender that don't require going under the knife!

I would try this and see how you feel about the surgery in a bit.

Take care!

[MacGuffin]

I know it can be hard to hear, but everyone is right when they say 13 is way too young to be making this decision. You are just starting the stage of your life where things are going to change drastically for you. Even if you have wanted a sex change for a year, that doesn't mean you will still want one in a few years. You still have a lot of time to make up your mind, and in addition that sex change isn't going anywhere. If you do decide that is what you want, it will still be there when you are an adult. In addition, you will not find a doctor who will perform that surgery on someone your age. It's medically unethical.

I think trying to save all of your money for this and running away to France if people don't agree with you doing it is really irrational, and is yet another sign of why planning this early is a bad idea. Give it a few years and see how you feel then. Having patience is a good thing.

[deadlyninjabee]

I do think you should wait and think about this a little more. You're only thirteen, a lot can change in even a years time.
So, you are transgender? Correct me if I'm wrong, but you are biologically male and feel like you are or should be female? You can live like that for years until you decide to have surgery.
And maybe you'll decide not to. I personally don't know if I'll ever have bottom surgery, because for guys, (and I mean female-to-male) the technology isn't quite all that great.

Think it over, I'd give it a few months, and then tell your parents you're transgender if you decide you are.

[snowman]

Originally Posted by Jeremyi

This^^

Your just 13,you could be going through a phase.And the min age for a sex change is 18.

there are loop holes around that JFS

[Soliloquy]

Since the OP's question has been answered, I'm going to go ahead and close this thread. OP: If you would like it reopened, feel free to PM me!