Transgender best friend

[LizualKei]

My best friend just came out of no where with this. She was always "straight" as long as I knew her. Never expressed interest in girls, which she would have, as she often openly talked about her love furries and bondage and stuff.
Anyway, as I said before, this kinda came out of left field. She told me she had a girlfriend one day. The longer they've been dating, the more masculine she's tried to make herself seem.
Now, I'm not here to tell her that it might be a phase, because it's not. And I'm not at all bothered by this. Its just..weird to see my best girl friend becoming a guy.
Anyway, I would love to know ways I can be supportive of her. She's still gonna be my best friend, no matter what. I just, don't wanna say the wrong thing, or offend her.
Thank you so much!

[MacGuffin]

First of all, even though your friend might be kinky, it doesn't mean she would necessarily come out about this. It's a really big realization to figure out something like this about yourself, and she may have wanted to keep it private until she was ready to share this part of her with other people. So I wouldn't take offense to it.

While it can be strange to witness, everyone goes through changes in life. Sometimes they are expected, like the transition from adolescence to adulthood, and others are no so expected, like finding your best friend is a transgendered person. Often if we encounter a change that is unexpected, it throw us for more of a loop. This is a pretty big change, and it takes some real getting used to on your part. So the first thing I would suggest is giving yourself time to get used to the idea of the changes your friend is going to be going through in the upcoming years. Allowing yourself to come to terms with that is a really important part of being able to support her; to do that you must be first able to support yourself.

It's a good thing that you can see your best friend for the person she is and not for the choices and transitions she makes. I think at this point it's best for you to just be there for support on a low interference level. Let your friend know you support her and you are there for her if she needs support or someone to talk to, but other than that step back from the situation and let her come to you if she needs anything. She'll let you know if she does, and this way you both don't feel unnecessary pressure regarding the situation. It may work out best for both of you that way.

[deadlyninjabee]

Just staying his friend is perfect, keep doing what you're doing.

Also, you might want to talk to him about pronoun usage. Does he prefer the masculine pronouns now?

And personally, don't take him not telling you sooner to heart. It's really a big thing to realize yourself, and then telling someone else? It's hard, I'm not going to lie. And me, for instance, I don't think I was ever exceptionally masculine when I was younger, I even went through stages of being very 'girly' to 'fix' myself. So maybe it didn't seem likely, but try not to openly express how you thought that unless he brings it up first. But then again, you know your best friend better than I do, so maybe he won't take offense to it.

Mainly, don't change how you've always acted. He's the same person you've known, just with a different sex than you both originally thought.

[BruceLeeDemarcus]

I have a transgender friend as well. The best thing that I know of is to be supportive. If people are bullying your friend. Then stick up for your friend.
Those are the main things that I do. They really help.

[Jaguar]

A friend is a friend no matter what their sex or orientation. Stand by her and let her know it.