Non-PG13: Hate my boobs n BF ?

[The Devil's Advocate ??]

So yeah, I don't really know what I'm asking, but basically, I hate my tits, and I hate my boyfriend. I'm AFAB, and yes I have gender issues, if that helps...and I've been "graciously endowed" -.- I never liked them much before (never even knew they existed until my sophomore year actually...that sounds terrible >.> but one day I look down and they are like, there xD) but last year I tried to go all girly...basically, girly turned to slutty, which is now reverting back to "I don't give a fuck if I could I'd wear my boyfriends clothes xD". Anyways, I just don't know, I wish they didn't exist, and I hate my boyfriend 'cause he knows they're there too (how could anyone NOT know they are tho >.>)...

I just hate that I have them, and I want them gone. I don't like to see them, and I really hate takin' my hoodie off because then they really are there, yaknow ? like I can't hide them. I hate them

He pretends like they aren't there, 'cause he knows how much I hate them, but it makes things awkward...I'm just thinking, if I were to bind, would it help me not hate them? Anyone else feel like I do who could help me out maybe?

[MacGuffin]

First of all, it's unfair of you to hate your boyfriend for just, well, being a guy. The majority of males in this world are made to be drawn to that particular part of female anatomy. IF he is even thinking about them as much as you say he is (which he may not be; you can't know unless you ask him), it says a lot that he even goes to lengths to pretend he doesn't notice them; it means he must really care about you. He's really going out of his way for you, and he doesn't have to. It might be nice to acknowledge what he is doing for you by saying that you notice what he is doing and you appreciate it, even though you know it must be hard for him. In addition, it's even more important to address this because if you go on hating your boyfriend, however misplaced that hate is, you will only foster resentment and bitterness that will end in an inevitable break up. So if you don't want to go that route, I would suggest doing something to change the path you are on.

As for how YOU feel about your breasts, well, you do have the power to change that. I always think that if you HAVE to live with something, it's best to at least come to a place of acceptance with it. It doesn't mean you have to like it, but it means you accept the situation and can live in relative harmony. If you spend all your time and energy hating and resenting something you are currently stuck with, you really only exhaust your emotional stores when they could be applied to better use.

The fact is, your breasts are there to stay for now. You might as well come to some sort of neutral understanding with yourself about them. For example, recognizing that while you dislike them, you are realize they are what you have been dealt in the hand of life, and for now you are just going to live with them. If you can do that, and part ways with your resentment, I imagine you will probably feel a lot better about the situation. I'm not saying you have to go out wearing low cut tops that show ample cleavage, but to at least get to the point where you can take off a sweatshirt without feeling uncomfortable. The things is, you probably notice your boobs more than other people do. They may notice them, but I highly doubt they constantly obsess over them. So it's really about changing what you think, not what others think. Once you do that, you will have all the power in this situation.

[deadlyninjabee]

Just to add on the the other post, you could always bind, but let me warn you it is very uncomfortable.