Conflicted...

[Viky]

I was bi for a long time.... I finally manage to tell my mom and she blows me off which hurt... To be honest I would have prefered her yell or hate me or something... She already hits me and yells at me for other stuff. Either way For the past few months now I've found I'm really not into guys...I'm just not... But i ran it past my best friend and my brother and a few other people a trust and all they did was disaprove and told me if i was lesbian they would cry and stuff. It hurt... It still hurts and i get it everyone says just be urself but i feel like im letting people down or something... I don't have a clue what to do and it hurts that the people i trust most can't just openly accept me when i find it so hard to trust people in the first place....

[Jaguar]

I'm sorry you're getting this reaction from friends and family. I know you want to be honest with people about who you are and have them accept you, but not everybody is going to do that. That's why I usually tell people not to come out until they're ready to handle all the possible negative reactions.

If your mother hits and yells at you, you have another issue of being in an abusive home. I hope there's some way you can resolve that, either by getting some help dealing with it, or being able to move out when you're 18. I know what it's like.

Let your brother and friends have time to get over it. I think they'll accept you in time. Your mother, however, sounds like she really doesn't know how to handle things.

[ronymajani]

Just cause they didn't accept you for who you like the phrase "people who love you will accept you for who you are" it's because they already accepted you for who you were and now it's like your saying "Victoria v1.0 is no more now I am Victoria v2.0" and you know that some people don't like change but over time they'll come to accept you for who you are and it won't be that easy but still it's not really like your saying that you completely changed (from IPhone to Android) your just saying that you got an update (Apple iOS4 to iOS5) so just be yourself like wise tiger above said and give them time to adapt but if they don't then they weren't the friends you thought they were, but I doubt it, and I think your mum thinks your confused or speaking "rubbish" as most parents say or she thinks that you don't know what you're talking about especially cause your 14 and so am I and the same for me (parents don't trust my judgment) so don't let yourself down and be you cause all that's different is that you don't like guys, but maybe your friend(s) are afraid you "like" them but even though you gals are friends and will go through it 2gether. Hope this helps.
Sincerely RNY.M teenhelp.org new unemployed mentor

[Viky]

Thank you