Male Advice Preferred: sex change

[pikamonachu]

I am physically a girl, but mentally a guy. I have never mentally considered myself a girl. I have told a few friends this but I'm too scared to tell my parents. I am openly bisexual leaning more towards girls. I want to know if this is something I should bring up to my parents, and if you were in this possition, how would you do it?

[Loving Linux Penguin]

Well, it comes down to what you think is best for you. If you feel ready and safe about bringing it up, then try to bring it up. If not, then it's probably not the best idea until you feel comfortable. That said, if they are fine with bisexuality, I'd be a tad surprised if they weren't okay about transgender people as well. I'm not sure how I'd bring it up honestly, I'd have to give that some thought. I'll get back to you on that

[Maverick.]

Welcome to teenhelp .

You asked two questions. If you're bisexual, that's ok many people are. Come out to friends/family when you are ready to.

You also mentioned something completely different, wanting a sex change and being transgender.

Find a therapist that specializes in gender disorder. Wait until you are a legal adult. Have the discussion with your parents. Make the decision as to whether or not you wish to take testosterone.

[Chasers]

Hey there,

Transitioning is a long process with many steps. If you have felt that you are a boy, that is fine, have you thought about talking to your parents or would they completely reject it?

And as the previous poster said, Gender therapist is awesome. I know soo much about the FTM process so if you have any questions, please feel free to PM me. I have thought about it myself and have many of my friends going through the process. But PM and lets have a private conversation. I would love to help you out in anyway

~Chasers aka Chelsea

[pikamonachu]

My parents are completely fine with the fact of my sexuallity and i dont think they would mind if i wanted to go transgender. I really just don't know how to bring it up to them.

[Chasers]

Well do you have any brothers in the family?

[Revolution]

First of all, I'd like to remind you this is not a disorder. You do not have a gender disorder. You are completely normal, you are transgendered, you see yourself as masculine, and that is completely fine. I would bring it up slowly with your parents, possibly asking them how they feel about trans* people as a whole, and then going into the fact that you are considering. Therapy is a good option early on. Obviously, surgery is going to be last option. First, you will look into options about hormones and such first. If you would like, send me a PM, and I can give you some blogs of some a couple of trans* people I know. You may appreciate not feeling so alone. I would put them out openly, but some people can be kind of hateful, so I would prefer to send it to you privately. Just let me know if you are interested.

[notwhoithinkiam]

I can say I am in the opposite boat for the most part as a male body with female mentality, the only difference being that I am happy with my body, but I do know that as recommended before that gender therapists are amazing (been there and thats how i learned that i was happy with my body just needed to lose the inhibition in opening up). The above post makes me want to bring up a valid point though, you will not only have your friends and family who will be effected by knowing this, some people just may not support the transition in any human being and may be assholes about it. When you come out completely with it just remember that even though your friends welcomed it and supported it( I trust your friends would) there may be some who openly will ridicule even the very idea. I am not saying this to be negative, but to hopefully prepare you for what sadly is often the inevitable. I advise taking the advise of Coffee, as she outlined the steps very well, good timing may be when pride events happen in your area or if it pops up on the news for the topic to be mentioned to parental units.

[pikamonachu]

I only have 1 sister.. and thanks for helping guys. Im working on it.

[pikamonachu]

I still just don't exactly know how to bring it up :/

[Invert]

You don't have to rush into telling your parents. many people experiment by dressing as the gender they feel for awhile at first. Also as some suggested, talking with other trans young people, like on the internet, can help. If you explore this with yourself, it might help you have a better idea of what to say. Or if you'd very much prefer to talk to your parents first, you could try something like 'Im not sure how to explain this to you, but I feel as though Im a boy, and I want to explore this, and want you to support me'. Or something like that. Its hard to tell you as its all very personal.