Uhh >.>

[TheBabyEater]

So I didn't know whether to put this in relationships or here, so I decided here based on the topic reason. I've kinda decided to be a bit... open sexually I guess? Like, I don't want to die having never been with a girl, just to see what it's like, knowing that I've thought about it on more than one occasion. Problem is, I'm in a committed relationship with my boyfriend and it's going rather well. Next March we'll have been together three years, and I'm not willing to break up with him just so I can go kiss some girl.

I've talked to him about this, he says it's perfectly okay if I want to "experiment" with another girl as long as I tell him. We've even mentioned a threesome before, but I don't like the idea of HIM being with another girl. I know me, and I know there's a strong possibility of me getting jealous. So I just want to avoid that conflict... But I'm not so hot on just "experimenting" with another girl, because I would feel like I'm cheating, even though he's given me the okay to discover my sexuality.

So I dunno. I feel kinda trapped here.

[Rooni3]

Well maybe you can take a break (not at all the same as breaking up) for a short time while you're doing your experimenting and explain to him that you don't feel comfortable doing this while you're in an exclusive relationship. You can also do an open relationship if you have his approval! But that opens the door for him to be with someone else too. With an open relationship, you pretty much have to set the rules clearly, especially if you get jealous easily (like maybe if he does decide to hook up with someone else, you can ask that he not tell you about it)
Also,
Do you already have a girl in mind? It might be difficult finding a girl that would be okay with you sort of using her. Its a problem in the lezzie community sadly.

Good luck, hope this helps! (:

[TheBabyEater]

Yeah, that's the problem. I don't want to really be "using" anyone at all, that's not what I'm looking for. Surely there's people out there that just want a makeout buddy

[Chasers]

So are you wanting to experiment on a making out level or relationship level?

[TheBabyEater]

Just a make out buddy level I guess ._. I don't really feel the need to have a relationship with anyone else. I love my boyfriend, and I don't want to be with anyone but him. Just to see if I'm like. really bi I suppose, to experiment I guess

[Chasers]

Well there are plenty of those in the LGBT community, well atleast in my area.... Atlanta, GA. But you would have to look in the right areas and find a girl willing to do that...

And like you said in previous posts, be okay with your buddy and your boyfriend at the same time. And don't worry, I've seen many polygamous relationships with multiple people. You just need to be okay with it.

[katpanda]

Look, your boyfriend has given the okay and you still feel uncomfortable about doing it because you feel that its cheating. So, that should say to you that as much as you want to do it, just don't. If you don't feel comfortable doing that while in a relationship even thought you have permission don;t do it.
You need to think of this too... What if you go do this and one day your boyfriend uses it against you? he might say he is okay with it, but what if he actually isn't? What if he just said it because he didn't want to start an argument that he would probably lose, aswell as that argument could maybe break up the realtionship?
If I was in your shoes I would NOT go ahead with it.
A lot of bad could come from it.
If you fully trust that is 100% about letting you do it & you are comfortable with the idea then go ahead with it, until then don't.

[notwhoithinkiam]

I understand the moral conflict that may arise here. You say you have thought of a threesome and not liked that thought due to jealousy, which is understandable, but what if he were to just watch you experiment, the only catch is if he turned out not to be okay with it he would have to let you know, and then i would advise you stop the train there and not go that route again. But a little trial and error is not a bad thing, just make sure you both understand the ways it could go, by the sounds of it, him all of a sudden not liking the idea of you experimenting in the middle of watching it wouldn't do any harm to the relationship. If you are okay with the thought, talk about it to him.