bringing it up

[justmeg]

hola people.
i dunno if any of you have read my previous posts, but i'm still kind of struggling with my sexuality although i'm kind of leaning more and more toward identifying as lesbian. i don't really talk about it with any of my friends because it's kind of an awkward topic to bring up, ya know? a lot of times we'll talk about how unfair it seems that same-sex couples can't get married in certain states and how gay rights are human rights, stuff like that, but i don't really know how to say like, "oh hey i think i'm gay!" without making the conversation awkward. i've never actually really sat down with anyone and talked anything through in terms of feelings (as corny as that sounds, haha) or what's going through my head as i'm struggling with everything. i don't want to say i'm bottling all my emotions but i feel like it'd be better to share what i'm thinking with someone...like just saying it out loud to another person would be a weight off my chest. there's maybe 2 or three people to whom i feel close enough to possibly talk to about it, but i just don't really know how to go about it? i feel like doing so is not only a bit awkward but also extremely personal. so i don't want to rush it or bring it up at a bad moment and just make things more awkward...it's like i'm waiting for "the perfect moment" but am starting to doubt whether that exists, if that makes sense...

so like, any suggestions on how to bring it up and maybe how to talk about this with my friends? or any stories of how you brought it up? not necessarily coming out, but just kind of bringing up that you're struggling with identity? i feel like a lot of people only come out when they know for sure for sure that they're gay, although i could be totally wrong...

feel free to PM me or comment below

[ProjectD]

I wasn't upset when I had done so. My friend invited me to an LGBT dance and I really wanted to go, but I had never told either of my parents of my thoughts. First I had told this friend, and she was more accepting than I could have guessed. I had to tell my mother after this. I felt as though I would be "weak" if couldn't.

I had beaten myself over non-acceptance of myself, and I was tired of it. I forced myself into telling my mother through texting (I know, brave right?) and it didn't feel awkward then. I simply needed to know what she would think, and in the end the results were better than I could have hoped for.

All of that sounded cheesy, but it was all true. I mean, you never know until you try, right?

[Lune]

Originally Posted by justmeg

hola people.
i dunno if any of you have read my previous posts, but i'm still kind of struggling with my sexuality although i'm kind of leaning more and more toward identifying as lesbian. i don't really talk about it with any of my friends because it's kind of an awkward topic to bring up, ya know? a lot of times we'll talk about how unfair it seems that same-sex couples can't get married in certain states and how gay rights are human rights, stuff like that, but i don't really know how to say like, "oh hey i think i'm gay!" without making the conversation awkward. i've never actually really sat down with anyone and talked anything through in terms of feelings (as corny as that sounds, haha) or what's going through my head as i'm struggling with everything. i don't want to say i'm bottling all my emotions but i feel like it'd be better to share what i'm thinking with someone...like just saying it out loud to another person would be a weight off my chest. there's maybe 2 or three people to whom i feel close enough to possibly talk to about it, but i just don't really know how to go about it? i feel like doing so is not only a bit awkward but also extremely personal. so i don't want to rush it or bring it up at a bad moment and just make things more awkward...it's like i'm waiting for "the perfect moment" but am starting to doubt whether that exists, if that makes sense...

so like, any suggestions on how to bring it up and maybe how to talk about this with my friends? or any stories of how you brought it up? not necessarily coming out, but just kind of bringing up that you're struggling with identity? i feel like a lot of people only come out when they know for sure for sure that they're gay, although i could be totally wrong...

feel free to PM me or comment below

I get what you're talking about. Two of my friends know of my preferences, one found out because of her "abilities" the other found out because the first told her. They are good friends, but I never really bring up my feelings or any of that with them. It's not that I bottle it up, I just discard them entirely.