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[theawesomeman]

So I have recently meet a guy on the internet. Me and him are both bi. We talked about having a relationship and having sex. He asked me and I said that I would love to. He said that he would send me a few pics of his dick on email and he did. He asked me to send him pics of my ass but I couldn't because I can't over the internet. I said that I would text him the pics when he got back to America in a few weeks. He would then come to my town and have sex. Is this a good idea? He is 16. Should I tell him my adress or not? Is this an ok thing to do?

[Soliloquy]

Hey Jacob,

I'm glad you asked this question here, as it is a very important one! We will never judge you for anything, so please feel free to be open and honest about your feelings on this matter!

I want to urge you to be very careful when it comes to getting together with people you meet over the internet, especially if you've discussed the possibility of sex with them. Not everyone you meet on the web is who they say they are. I encourage you to follow basic internet safety, even if you are speaking to people here on TeenHelp. Although some sites seem safer and more secure than others, there is always the off chance you come across someone who is a bit creepy. I am not telling you this to scare you; rather, I just want to make sure you're safe and know the risks.

Sending nude pictures of yourself (or even simply a nude body part such as your bottom) is a very risky activity. You do not know where those pictures will end up in the future, or if the person you're exchanging them with will show them to anyone else. If you ever choose to exchange them, I would encourage you to do so only with someone whom you absolutely trust and whom you know in real life. Even a once-trusted ex can turn around and use those pictures against you, however, and so I urge you to be careful and think this matter through before acting on it. I would advise you not to send any nude photos to this boy you met online.

I know that at your age, you're probably very curious about sexual relationships. Your body is being flooded with hormones and you yourself are probably beginning to discover your body and its various sexual functions. Nevertheless, I want you to take a step back and think about this. You are 13. Are you ready to have sex? How educated are you about it? Are knowledgeable about STIs? Are condoms available to you? (Which you should still use during male-male intercourse, particularly if you are outside of a committed relationship, as they prevent the spread of STIs.) Are you prepared to practice safe sex? These are all questions you should ask yourself. You do not know this boy personally and thus cannot be certain of his sexual history. Even if he claims he is a virgin, you should assume that, until he is tested, there is a possibility that he has an STI.

I would also like to raise the point that this boy is 16 and you are 13. While he is of age to have sex in most places, you are under the age of consent. You cannot legally consent to sex, and this could also potentially get the boy in some trouble in the future if anyone were to ever find out.

If you take all of this into consideration and come to the conclusion that yes, you would like to do this, I want you to be safe about it. Educate yourself on STIs and use a condom. Understand that choosing to have sex is a very mature decision and one that should not be taken lightly, particularly at your age, when you have all your teenage years ahead of you to experiment sexually. May I ask why you wish to have sex with him? Is it a desire to just lose your virginity already? Is it curiosity? Perhaps this is a gift you wish to save for later in life, for someone you either love or have gotten to know personally. Remember, there is no rush!

Definitely do not, and I cannot stress this enough, give him your address right off the bat. Meet him, if you choose to do so, in a crowded public place -- and I'd encourage you to bring a parent as well. If not a parent, then another trusted adult or even a friend. Don't be alone, in case something goes wrong. Even after you meet him in person, I would encourage you to meet in a public place a few more times and do some serious chatting before you bring him to your home, you go to his house, or you do anything sexual. You want to get an idea of who this guy is. Take it very slowly.

You mentioned the possibility of a relationship. I especially think you should take it slowly if this is the case. It sounds as though you are rushing into sex a bit too quickly for both your age and the pending status of your relationship. Remember, good relationships are not only built on sex but on an emotional connection as well.

Take a look at these pages to educate yourself on these various issues:
What Is Statutory Rape?
Internet Safety for Teens
Meeting People You Met Online
Making the Decision to Have Sex
Information On Sexually Transmitted Infections
Sexually Transmitted Infections Among Gay & Bisexual Men

Apologies for rambling on and on, but this is all very important information that you should take into account. I hope this helps, and please, no matter your decision, be safe!!

[Lune]

Originally Posted by theawesomeman

So I have recently meet a guy on the internet. Me and him are both bi. We talked about having a relationship and having sex. He asked me and I said that I would love to. He said that he would send me a few pics of his dick on email and he did. He asked me to send him pics of my ass but I couldn't because I can't over the internet. I said that I would text him the pics when he got back to America in a few weeks. He would then come to my town and have sex. Is this a good idea? He is 16. Should I tell him my adress or not? Is this an ok thing to do?

I suggest strongly that you be cautious. This guy may not be who you think he is. Always be suspicious of who you talk to on the internet.

[msfsteven]

I personally find it fishy a 16 year old is able to travel to different cities/towns. I don't really know about these things though. Kylie had an awesome post though