Close friend came out

[Kevmezz]

Ok just to cut a long story short my friend recently told that he is gay, I not gay i'm straight and him being gay doesn't bother me one bit and I'm actually pleased that he's told someone.


He says he worried about us eventually drifiting apart as friends just because of our differances.
So my question is mainly aimed at the guys here, do you have a gay/bisexual friend and has thing stayed same or have things been arkward since?

we've been friends since pre-school so there are alot of memories and good times we've had and I would like to think we would still be mates when were are old lol

[theawesomeman]

I have had two friends who came out about being gay. In about the first week after the first one said he was gay we stopped talking completely. That didn't have anything to do with being gay, I think. Right after he came out, he started getting really bitchy so I stopped talking to him after a little while. For the other friend who came out about 5 months later, we're still friends. The only thing that changed about him was that he dated guys. He didn't get bitchy and mean like the other friend. I think for you, if your friend dosen't change there aditude then there is a good chance that you will still be friends.

[Kevmezz]

I agree with you only thing that changed is that I now know he like guys, part of me wonders if he's worried about me telling other people which I wouldn't.

He did say he wanted to go to a gay bar and asked if I would come with him just so he's not on his own.....not sure about that what you you guys do? Do I go and support my friend?

[Bubbles37]

I have a slightly different perspective on things. I'm bi, and everyone else in my group of friends (including my best friend) is straight. It hasn't really changed our friendship.

[Loving Linux Penguin]

I identify as bi / gay (either is acceptable -- these days I try not to put a label on it, my sig needs some updating). I don't think there's really been any change in the relationship with my friends--the only difference is that in some cases I now talk about LGBT stuff more often since it tends to be on my mind. And I should also point out that my friendship hasn't changed much even with people who I have romantic and/or sexual feelings about (and have told them about that).

[chemical.fate]

I think you should go with him. Now you get the chance to be his wingman and next time you guys go out he can be your wingman. And trust me being a experienced gay wingman myself, we are very good at what we do.

[razors_and_rosary]

The gay bar in our city was the nicest, according to a couple of my friends who went there several times. Furthermore, don't worry about people assuming you're gay because you're at a gay bar the two friends are male straight and female questioning and there were no problems.

As above, I encourage you it seems like it means a lot to him, having just come out and likely being quite nervous. However, don't do it if you feel uncomfortable. And if there are any problems, you guys are friends -- you can talk through it

[NyanNyan]

I'm bi and I have even admitted to my straight female best friend that I have a crush on her!! Shes known since September and if anything, things have actually gotten closer because now we know that there are no secrets in our friendship. good luck to you and your friend

[BruceLeeDemarcus]

Well I'm bi and it hasn't changed anything with my friends. I hope that doesn't happen to you. I wish you the best of luck.

[Kevmezz]

Thank You for all you kind advice, I decided to go to the gay bar with him and I was quite suprised as it was very nice place, The reason he wanted to go was just simply to see what it was like and personally I didn't think it was any different to going anywhere else.


My friend joked that all we need now is a friend of my G/f's to come out and it be like a "winged team" (he was drunk)