scared to come out about being bi

[Bree_Bree]

I just recently discovered im bi. I'm not ashamed of it but i'm scared of my parents and sister finding out so I don't go around talking bout it in fear of them finding out. My dad probably wouldn't care because he'z never judged me. He's always in my corner. I talk to him about anything, but this feals different. I'm close to my mother and sister but they easily disown anyone and thats what I fear. I have one sister and five brothers my brothers I know won't judge in any way. Im the second youngest but treated like the baby so anything I do is accepted. I just don't know how and if this situation will be any different. I just turned 18 and don't really have other issues. This is my main one. How do I let every one know without out feeling rejected or out of place?

P.S. Sorry for the whole explanation lol

[Loving Linux Penguin]

Hey there, Briana! I'm Chris. It's nice to meet you

My sexuality really didn't bother me very much after I came out on May 10. Yeah...there are still times when I am uncomfortable, and it's VERY unusual to be in my situation where you have essentially no one that isn't accepting of you, but from what I have heard it's usually not as bad as you think it will be.

That said, there are 3 things that I think you MUST have before you come out to someone:
-> Safety - You must be pretty darn sure that no one is going to physically hurt you, abandon you, or otherwise harm you as a result of your coming out to them.
-> Benefit to You - You need to feel that there's something in it to you--that coming out has a benefit to you. If it's just for the benefit of someone else, why bother?
-> Confidence - You need to feel confident in yourself, and able to handle it if someone doesn't take it very well.

That said, if all of those are true, then just sit down with your family and have an honest conversation (or write a note, or whatever) about it. There's no reason to feel uncomfortable or weird--at least 10% of people are like you, and this is completely NORMAL. It's okay.

[FriendZoneMayor]

Hey Briana. I answered "sorta" because while it was a HUGE relief that I wouldn't have to hide from anyone anymore, it was also a struggle for me as my parents reacted quite poorly. I came out in October of this year, and my parents cut off all of my college money, as well as told me I wasn't allowed to live with them anymore. It was also awkward around my family at Christmas, but that was mostly in my head

All in all though, coming out was def worth it.

[ToGoOmniscient]

Hey there,

I answered yes because everyone but my parents accept me for being bisexual.
My mom, dad and stepmom believe I'm too young to feel this way.
My mom also says I can't put a label on myself because I'm not 'a bisexual'.
But I don't care what my parents think.

I agree with the above posters; there is no shame in you being who you are, and it shouldn't matter what other people. As long as you love who you are, it's all that matters.

I wish you the best of luck.
You can PM/VM me anytime.

xx

[Bree_Bree]

Thank u all for your opinions

@Chris your right it probably won't turn out as bad as i think. I'm thinking about th worst tht could happen not how I could benefit from it
@Summer sorry it turned out tht way :/ Have they accepted your sexuality at all or are they still in "shock mode"?
@Elizabeth I think my dad will be acceptable like ur parents but my mother and sister are unpredictable, but maybe it won't bother thm at all.

You've all helped ease me a little I'm glad im not th only one going through this. My cousin already knows. Me and her grew up like sisters so I have her no matter what. I'm close with my kidd brother and I plan on telling him. Once I do i'll feel more confident to tell my parents and every one else.

[FriendZoneMayor]

They're still in shock mode, but I only came out in October, so i'm not expecting huge change anytime soon.

[Lune]

Originally Posted by Bree_Bree

I just recently discovered im bi. I'm not ashamed of it but i'm scared of my parents and sister finding out so I don't go around talking bout it in fear of them finding out. My dad probably wouldn't care because he'z never judged me. He's always in my corner. I talk to him about anything, but this feals different. I'm close to my mother and sister but they easily disown anyone and thats what I fear. I have one sister and five brothers my brothers I know won't judge in any way. Im the second youngest but treated like the baby so anything I do is accepted. I just don't know how and if this situation will be any different. I just turned 18 and don't really have other issues. This is my main one. How do I let every one know without out feeling rejected or out of place?

P.S. Sorry for the whole explanation lol

I'm of no help with the coming out kind of thing. I spend life keeping my sexuality a secret from most. Has always been less complicated

[Bree_Bree]

@Chris I tld my brother and his reaction waz 'tht's fu**ked up.' Thn he'z like 'well I guess tht's u.. Okay.' Thn tht waz it. iz tht shock mode er wat?

@Lune tht mite b a good idea for me. Better thn being rejected. Were u evr askd about ur sexuality?

My plan tanked. My brother is like my best friend and it seemz he cant except it. He acts fine but I could tell it's bugging him. Any advice on how to deal with it or fix it??

[Loving Linux Penguin]

Well, Briana, I'm hoping that your brother eventually comes to terms with it. There's not a whole lot you can do to help that process, unfortunately--he'll accept it if and when he feels able to accept it. One thing that MIGHT help is to remind him that you're still the same person--you're just being more honest about who you are. But...that doesn't always work.

Whatever happens, we're here for you and it'll be okay.

[Megg-Killed-The-Prom-King]

Hey, Im Meghan.
I feel your pain Bree, I have the same Problem, except i shouldn't fear telling my dad because he's gay. I know its hard to come out about your sexuality, its scary, and you feel alone.
But don't worry about being alone because there are people just like you and i struggling the the same problem everyday.

I really hope you build up the courage to tell your family, and they will probably, except you for who you are.

Hag in there beautiful, everything will be okay <3

[lilmissdontwannabehere]

Hey, I answered sorta. I came out to some of my friends and some of my family. Untill I move out I'm not coming out to other people. My problem was that I wasn't prepared. My step mom refused to believe it and my aunt found ways to throw religion (which is very important to me) in my face so i would "find help for my problem" pretty histarical idea, right? But anyways I think Chris really put the three main things you need to think of. Your safety, Self Benefit, and Self confidence. If I were you I would wait unitl you move out if you havn't already but its your choice. Good luck! I hope it works out well for you