Typical confused teenage girl

[Millarw12]

I don't know what is going on.

I've always identified with being straight. But last year (2011) I had kissed 3 girls, and now I want a girlfriend. I am highly sexually attracted to guys, but emotionally, I would love to be in a romantic situation with a girl.

Is this normal for someone my age? I know being slightly bi curious is normal, but to the extent that I want to be involved with a girl this way.. I'm confused.

What are your thoughts?

[Ambush_Reality]

I will be your girlfriend. Problem solved.

[Millarw12]

Hahaha thanks, doesn't really help answer my question though.

[Yorehl]

It seems to me like you're still attracted to guys, but guys aren't mature enough for you so you want a girl, maybe? However it really is, it seems normal.

[mirandalogan2]

i figured out that i was bisexul by experimenting with relashionships with girls and guys. with the girls i made sure that i told them that i wasnt sure what i wanted and not to expect anything serious at first

[Celestial.]

Hi there.

You want to know something? It's okay not to understand what's going on. It's okay not to be in complete control, or have a crystal clear idea of your sexuality. The teenage years are for exploring, experimenting if you're so inclined, and learning more about yourself. So for now, whatever you're feeling, just let yourself feel it, rather than trying to convince yourself of something you feel you should be. Does that make sense?

At your age, it's natural for you to start to question, to perhaps experiment, and to start to re-evaluate your own perceptions of your sexuality. That said, everyone will of course experience this differently - for some people, it might just be a fleeting thought, or a one night stand, but for others, like you, it might be something deeper. Whatever you feel, though, that's okay.

As I said before, it's fine to be confused. You don't have to have all the answers. Just follow your heart, or your instincts, or whatever it is that's leading you, and see where it takes you. Try to be as open and honest with yourself as you can, and see how it goes.

Good luck.

[Viky]

I started out just like that a long time ago in a way. I was never really sexually atracted to guys. I'm still not. But i was thinking just like that back in third grade. The best way to understand is to just go with the flow I've found. everything works itself out that way. If you feel that you want a girl friend than try it out if given the chance with someone just like you'd chose a boyfriend (someone you like[this is just a suggestion]). A lot of people especially parents will say "its a typical phase to be bi curious" but there's no way to know if its just a phase if you don't try i suppose.

[yourworstmistake]

If you want to try a relationship with girls then go for it, because even though you prefer guys you may like being with girls.

[Millarw12]

How do I go about this though? Fuck I am so scared to ruin friendships because of this My friends will feel so uncomfortable around me when they know.
I'm not an outgoing person, with SHITE self esteem so making the first move on a girl I like is going to be really hard. Any tips or advice will be appreciated beyond belief

[Jaguar]

Originally Posted by Millarw12

How do I go about this though? Fuck I am so scared to ruin friendships because of this My friends will feel so uncomfortable around me when they know.

I can understand that it's a new and scary thing, and you don't want everyone knowing. That's natural. But the only person who has to know is the person you may want to experiment with.

When you're with someone you know and trust, you could strike up a convo about bisexuality. Like, "So many girls say they're bisexual now. What do you think about that?" or something. Her reaction will tell you if it's ok to tell her more or not.

[Bree_Bree]

I felt tht way jst a few mnths ago. I never evn thoughtabout girls tht way til I made out with one, thn I started questioning my sexuality. Asking myself if I could b in a relationship with girls. Th more I thought about it th more I came to terms tht i'm bi. I like guys mre thn girls but i'm bi none th less. Now i'm wrking on coming out. Jst experiment for a while n see how u feel about it. U'll know if u are or aren't. Hoped ths helped

[FallenStar]

Well, you could be bi-romantic. (: Its less common but it still happens. And maybe you're not, you don't have to figure it out now.

[Loyal Guardian]

Hey there. I'm just about the same age as you but, if my opinion is worth anything, then listen. Don't EVER hesitate in doing something that you want to. I lived for most of my life in hesitation and doubt and frankly, I've become an anti-social hermit with no friends. That's why I'm on teenhelp.org. I'm not saying that you'll become what I've become, but just that you should do whatever you want. You only live once.