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January 17th 2012, 07:03 PM
Soo, I am 20 [not quite a teen but, I digress] && I have a girlfriend [yes, i'm a female]. I have never, EVER been attracted to a female in my whole life. && I'm still not.... I am still highly attracted to men, but I am attracted to my "significant other" && she's the only woman I am attracted to, and has ever been attracted to. We don't really have labels, like I don't consider myself gay because I'm not attracted to females, just one. But I'm madly in love with my girlfriend. Our love was kinda accidental. We started out as friends, then feelings just went out of control... I haven't been this happy in, forever. So I guess my question is, am I wrong for not labeling us as lesbians? I've never been one for labels and this is really no different. I just don't consider myself a lesbian because I'm not attracted to women... Idkk I guess I just feel like I'm making things confusing because in a way I guess I am a lesbian but at the same time, I don't have lesbian actions. I don't like girls. I just like A girl. She's 25 && ready to tell the world we're together && in love. I on the other hand, don't think the world needs to know and that we're fine in secret. Am I wrong for wanting to keep us a secret? I think I just need a little advice from ppl who won't judge!
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Re: Idkk Really.... -
January 17th 2012, 09:55 PM
You are not wrong for wanting to keep it secret. You have to tell people only when your ready. If you don't want to label yourself that is fine. If/when you do become open about your relationship say things such as "the sex of my partner doesn't matter the important thing is I love her." " I have fallen for her and the sex is unimportant" etc.
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January 17th 2012, 10:10 PM
I don't think you're wrong for wanting to keep your relationship a secret. You're simply not ready for that quite yet and I understand why. I'm sure that your girlfriend will understand, too. You've got to explain to her why you're not feeling up to that, yet. However, I do understand her point of view too. She wants to show the world who she's in love with; which is good because she's proud of the relationship and being with you. However, you've got to make yourself comfortable and happy. So take things at your own pace and if you don't want to label yourself, you don't have to. It's just something that helps society understand a person. Well, that's my opinion anyways.
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