Help- I'm sorta kinda confused.

[Whisperingwillow]

I know that I'm bisexual, I'll start off with that. I've had a crush on this girl for a long time, she's one of my greatest friends. But I have a boyfriend, he's another great friend and we've been going out for about a month. He knows I'm bi and he's been very accepting about it. Last night I had this dream, with the afore mentioned female friend, and she kissed me and I kissed her back. I told him about it and it doesn't seem to bother him, but it really unsettled me. I don't know what to think. Any ideas?

[Celestial.]

Hey Erin.

The thing is, sometimes dreams are just that - dreams. I've had romantic dreams about people of the opposite sex, but it doesn't mean I actually wanted to do anything with them. And I've had romantic dreams about girls I've had crushes on, but it doesn't mean anything happened with them. If you've told your boyfriend and he's fine with it, then there doesn't seem to be a problem.

That said, I know how irritating it can be to have unwanted dreams like this. If it's really bothering you, talk to your boyfriend and tell him how it's making you feel. It sounds like he really cares about you, so talking things out as openly and honestly as you can is probably the best option.

Aside from that, just try not to dwell on it. Remind yourself that you're in a relationship with someone you really like, and try not to let your feelings for this girl get in your way. Give it time, and remember that while these feelings are natural, they're not something you need to analyse or spend too much time thinking about.

Good luck.

[Whisperingwillow]

okay. It's just in my nature to over-analyze things if something is new to me. Thanks. I feel a lot better about this.

[Revolution]

I actually had a crush on a girl during my relationship with my boyfriend, and dreamed about kissing her and such as well. However, I had no interest in breaking up with my boyfriend. I liked her, but I loved him. He is my best friend, and I have no interest in being with anybody else. It's okay to feel a sexual attraction towards another person, and if you like her more, break up with him and date her instead. But if you want to stay with him, as long as you don't act on these feelings, there's nothing wrong with having them.