Non-PG13: So... I might be curious...

[mister_mcfeely]

I know that I want a relationship with a woman. However, whenever I watch boy/girl porn, I sometimes wonder what it would be like to perform oral sex and be penetrated by a guy. I have no interest in relationships, making out with guys, foreplay, etc. Strictly performing oral and being penetrated. I think I feel this way because I have a desire to sexually experiment. Would I be considered bi-curious?

[Sythan]

Yes, I think you would be considered bi-curious.

[mister_mcfeely]

Would I still be bi-curious if I wasn't completely sure about doing those things?

[Whisperingwillow]

I would assume so. You wonder about them still, but you don't know if you would act on them. That's what it sounds like to me at least, although I definitely don't know a whole lot on topics such as these.

[Shawn K.]

Originally Posted by Sythan

Yes, I think you would be considered bi-curious.

Nick, is it common for guys in our age group to take on a 'label' like this if they haven't actually done anything. Around my school more girls put themselves in categories than guys. And the few guys that do all have some actual experience in that group. Like a dude that says he's gay has actiually done something sexual with another dude. (and it was more than messing around or experimenting) Don't know if that's clear.

[Sythan]

Originally Posted by mister_mcfeely

Would I still be bi-curious if I wasn't completely sure about doing those things?

Yes, that's where the curiosity comes into. You're unsure about it, which makes you bi-curious.

Originally Posted by Shawn K.

Nick, is it common for guys in our age group to take on a 'label' like this if they haven't actually done anything. Around my school more girls put themselves in categories than guys. And the few guys that do all have some actual experience in that group. Like a dude that says he's gay has actiually done something sexual with another dude. (and it was more than messing around or experimenting) Don't know if that's clear.

Yes, it's common. Many people who are bi-curious don't get to experience same-sex sexual activity, and that's fine. Simply having the same-sex curiosity in and of itself makes you bi-curious, engaging in same-sex sexual activity isn't really a component of being bi-curious.

[Shawn K.]

Ok now I'm straight-confused. If a straight dude has a same sex sexual experience he's not necessarily bi-curious. But if a straight dude wonders what it's like to have e a same sex experience he is bi-curious. Can either one of them be straight-curious? And is this an invention of our generation? I ask that because my two gay uncles (they're together) never mention "curious" when we talk about this stuff. They're early forties.

[FallenStar]

Well, if you're curious about bisexual tendencies, I guess that would make you bi-curious c; Have fun! [not too much though ;D]

[Sythan]

Originally Posted by mister_mcfeely

Would I still be bi-curious if I wasn't completely sure about doing those things?

Yes, I would believe so. Bi-curiosity is questioning whether or not you have some level of same-sex attraction. Even if you're unsure about the sex acts, I'd still call it bi-curiosity.

Originally Posted by Shawn K.

Ok now I'm straight-confused. If a straight dude has a same sex sexual experience he's not necessarily bi-curious.

Correct, having sex with the same gender does not make you gay, bisexual, or bi-curious, unless you do it because you're trying to figure if you may have same-sex attractions. Take some of my friends, for instance, they're straight and not questioning who they're attracted to, but still ask me for sexual favors.

Originally Posted by Shawn K.

But if a straight dude wonders what it's like to have e a same sex experience he is bi-curious.

Define experience. It can mean sex, or simply romance. In the latter, it's bi-curiosity. For sex, as I've explained above, it can go both ways. If you're having sex to figure out your feelings, then that stems out of bi-curiosity. If your straight and simply having sex with a same-gender friend to get your rocks off, then no, you're not bi-curious.

Originally Posted by Shawn K.

Can either one of them be straight-curious? And is this an invention of our generation? I ask that because my two gay uncles (they're together) never mention "curious" when we talk about this stuff. They're early forties.

I would think straight-curious implies someone who is gay or lesbian looking back to wonder if they are straight. Which I don't believe happens often, as many gays and lesbians go through a phase of questioning that leads them to the conclusion they're gay. To go back on that, I believe, would be pretty uncommon.

I honestly do not know of this is an invention of our generation, though it seems plausible.

[mister_mcfeely]

I don't know if this should be on a new thread or not, but I'm feeling confused. I did read the replies, but there's still a part of me that wants to say, "no, I'm not bi-curious because I'm not emotionally interested in guys, only women". However, I know that I do have some curiosity with having sexual things done to me by a guy. I guess, I'm just having conflicting thoughts because there is a part of me that still identifies as being straight when I know deep down that I'm curious.

[Loyal Guardian]

I was just like you, dude. No attraction to guys, by wondering what it feels like to be penetrated orally and anally. This girl I knew really wanted to be the "leader" while having sex, so I went ahead and let her try it, while also reaping the gains of knowledge and experience (strap-on dildo). I've decided that it feels like crap, and now I feel sorry for all the pornstars I watch getting demolished.

[Colored Shadows]

Hey everyone!

I think we should try to focus less on bi-curiosity in general and concentrate more on the OP's original questions. If you have questions about bi-curiosity in general, please make a new thread so as not to conflict with the OP's concerns.

Thanks a bunch!

Originally Posted by mister_mcfeely

I don't know if this should be on a new thread or not, but I'm feeling confused. I did read the replies, but there's still a part of me that wants to say, "no, I'm not bi-curious because I'm not emotionally interested in guys, only women". However, I know that I do have some curiosity with having sexual things done to me by a guy. I guess, I'm just having conflicting thoughts because there is a part of me that still identifies as being straight when I know deep down that I'm curious.

There are many ways that bi-curiosity can be defined. A lot of people identify as bi-curious when they're confused as to what their sexuality is and would like to experiment with the same sex to verify their feelings. But you can be straight and still be curious about having sexual relations with another guy. If you feel that you are only interested in pursuing a committed relationship with a girl, but are interested in guys sexually, you can still identify as straight. Or, you could identify as bisexual but hetero-romantic. (Check out our dictionary to read up on some LGBT terms!) It's all left up to your interpretation. The important thing is to understand that there is no right or wrong, and if something feels right to you, then that's all the matters.

Many straight people have had encounters with members of the same sex, and this does not necessarily make anyone gay, bi, or bi-curious. We all have sexual urges, and it's natural to be curious about others sexually, regardless of what you identify as. You may wish to say that you're straight but curious, if you see that your feelings for girls are unwavering. Or, if you wish to keep a more open mind, you may wish to say you're bi-curious at this point in time.

Whatever feels right to you!

I hope this makes sense. If you have any other questions, feel free to write back!!

[Shawn K.]

I should have just come out and said what I was thinking when I read the first couple of posts; Why do we have to have a label, or identify with this or that at all? Especially if we're teenagers and probably arent't sure what the hell we want. I don't know if girls do this, but I know lots of buds are anxious to know "if I do or did this does that mean I'm that?" or "If I thought about that, does that mean I'm this?" I always tell it means they're horny.

It's probably not that simple... but it sure can't be THIS complicated. There's a dictionary? Wow.

[George^^]

Okay, wondering about doing things with the same sex isn't unusual in teenagers, we're basically a big pile of "What if's?" and it's not that weird. Besides, your sexuality is that, it's YOURS. Yours to label, your to wonder about, yours to accept. Whatever you feel like buddy.

[mister_mcfeely]

Based on the replies on here and the support I've recieved outside of TH, I'm satisfied with the answers I have. I do appreciate all the input in this thread The thread can be closed.

[Celestial.]

I'm glad you're happy with the responses/support. I'll close this thread now. I hope things go well.