attraction but I'm not interested?

[George^^]

Okay, I have this friend, and she's also pansexual. We've both agreed the other is un-turn-on-able (>< She's hurt me by saying that she's unatractive because of ____ and me because I'm (real name), OUCH!) And sometimes I feel like kissing her or something. Most of the time I can't stand her (^ Look up at unatraction and you'd get why). But I just get these things. She's not the only one, I've done it with other people, like suddenly I'd think about kissing them, or 'omg, their so close!', but I feel nothing but that sudden urge to do something like that. I've done it with her, a straight friend (who I admit is hot, but I don't feel like that, she's like my sister), another friend, and my crush (I can get my crush, but none of the others.)

[Colored Shadows]

Hey George,

I think what you're experiencing is quite normal. Physical attraction is very ingrained into us as humans and is a primal part of finding a "mate." However, because we're such intelligent and complex creatures, we also bring emotions into the picture. Sometimes you may find that your body is greatly attracted to someone but you are not necessarily interested in pursuing them. The fact that you find them attractive doesn't have to mean that you want to be with them; I know that I myself find many different people attractive, yet know I wouldn't want to form a relationship with them.

There are many different levels to a relationship. There is a physical connection and then there is an emotional connection. At a time where your hormones are going haywire, it's normal for you to have increased sexual urges. And sometimes, people can be very attractive but not interest us emotionally. That doesn't stop that primal part of our brains from reacting, however. Thus, you may get some mixed signals!

I hope this helps! If you have any other questions, feel free to write back!!

[George^^]

^^ Thanks. It's just weird to be sitting with someone you kind of hate and then suddenly be all like "KISSS MEEEE"... ^^

[Kikidon11]

Hey. That's happened to me before too. I think my hormones were just getting to me, like yours.