A bit confused

[AmiFey]

Alright, I'll explain this the best I can, but I'm not especially good at explaining, so bear with me.

Ever since I've had signs of a chest I've hated it. I wore loose shirts for a long time, but those just didn't hide it well (I also wore them because I had an ED and just hated my body, but before that and after it was because of my breasts). I started wearing a sportsbra to hide it a little better, and that's helped, so I'm starting to feel a little more confident. The thing is, there are days when I like having a chest and I like being a girl. They aren't as common as days I don't like it, but they still happen. I just can't sort through my feelings and the things I want enough to understand myself! It's so frustrating. Can anyone help?

[0akly]

Hey, first off I want to reassure you that what you are experiencing is normal!

Now, I don't think you need any help, if you like being a girl one day and other days you don't that is normal, if you want to play with your gender, that is also normal.

I don't quite understand your question, so all I can say is: Don't worry, its all normal, you can be whatever sex you feel is right one minute and then you can change. If your breasts have just started to grow I assume you've just hit puberty, so you may grow out of your feelings.

Feel free to pm me

[George^^]

Hi. I understand, I'm also "female". Before this year female was all I knew, but now I find myself hiding my boobs and feeling like I should be a guy, but other times like I could be a girl. There are plenty different labels for it, but you shouldn't feel the need to label yourself, at all. I go under pangender and am considering being transgender.

Pm me if you ever need help, and I know a bit about binding (hiding your boobs, through I suck at it because... their huge :/ ^^' But I do pretty well, considering)

[AmiFey]

Originally Posted by 0akly

Hey, first off I want to reassure you that what you are experiencing is normal!

Now, I don't think you need any help, if you like being a girl one day and other days you don't that is normal, if you want to play with your gender, that is also normal.

I don't quite understand your question, so all I can say is: Don't worry, its all normal, you can be whatever sex you feel is right one minute and then you can change. If your breasts have just started to grow I assume you've just hit puberty, so you may grow out of your feelings.

Feel free to pm me

I just wanted to know if it was normal. Like, I started puberty when I was 11 and I'm almost 16 now, so it's not like having boobs and having these feelings are new for me. It's just confusing, I guess, because I didn't really know before I was 15 that boys and girls ever dressed like each other (naive much? xD) or liked each other (I like girls). I thought these feelings were weird and I pushed them inside and, although I constantly allowed myself to regret and loathe being a female (my excuse was that my parents had wanted a boy and I'd ruined their perfect family, which they've told me many times) I never allowed myself to consider actually seeming like a guy. The only times I'm okay with being a female are in ballet and sometimes on random occassions (very rare) but even during ballet I hate appearing feminine and the only thing I like about being a female are pointe and being lifted.

And thanks, George. c:> Glad to know I'm not alone in feeling like this.