Still confused after 4 years

[NickeyD]

For almost 4 years I've labeled myself BI. But I go back and forth, that I'm either BI or Gay. I see pics of girls wearing lingere and stuff and in my head I'm like "heeeeeeeey yous fine" but I only have celeb guy attractions (not many). I guess my question is, if I am gay or BI can I lable myself that even if I've never been sexually involved with either sex?

[Amberpamber]

I know plenty of gay females that have celeb attractions to males. So if thats your only male attractions then I would go with that.

[TheCrowing]

You can label yourself however you'd like. Just know that it's just a label. Sexuality is very fluid.

[Celestial.]

Hey Nickey.

The thing is, even if you're bisexual, that doesn't mean you'll always have an equal attraction to both males and females. Some people describe it in percentages ('80% female, 20% male'), or others just say 'I lean more towards men/women'. And even this can change; so it's possible to be bisexual and mostly attracted to either gender at one point, and then for that to change at another.

As Courtney said, you can label yourself however you want to - or not at all, if you'd prefer. It's possible (in my opinion at least) to know your sexuality without having had any experience (though that can help in some situations). For now, just go with whatever feels right. You don't have to put a label to your feelings if you'd prefer not to; sometimes people don't fit into neat little categories, and you shouldn't feel pressured to try to come up with a label. You are who you are, you like who you like, and that's the simplest way of looking at it.

Take care.

[Squiggly]

You don't have to put a label on yourself it's not too important. You are who you are and there is nothing wrong with that. You could be gay or you could be Bi maybe someday you will figure it out but if it takes a while it's no big deal.

[MindBodySpirit]

My advice? Don't label yourself at all. Just go with the flow of life. If you happen to be attracted to a guy, and get into a serious relationship with him, so what? If you only stick to girls, that's good too. Sometimes, I'll tell people I don't even have a sexuality because I hate the labels.

[NickeyD]

Same, I don't like labels either. But sometimes I feel like I should have one. My cousin all the time puts me in the gay category just cuz I'm dating a girl. I just get confused.

[Celestial.]

I can relate to feeling like you need to have a label. It can be frustrating when people assume that you should know your sexuality and have a name for it, but the thing is, it's okay not to have a word for it. If labels make you feel safe, then maybe they can help, but sometimes (like if you feel the need to change in order to fit a certain label) they can be more trouble than they're worth. Dating someone of the same sex doesn't automatically make you gay, so just try explaining to your cousin that this is just who you're with now, and it doesn't necessarily mean you're only ever going to be with girls. It's okay to be confused, to question, to have to stop and think about things; ultimately, you just have to be yourself (cheesy as it sounds), and be proud of who you are.

[heys.wendy]

Originally Posted by Squiggly

You don't have to put a label on yourself it's not too important. You are who you are and there is nothing wrong with that. You could be gay or you could be Bi maybe someday you will figure it out but if it takes a while it's no big deal.

yes,i agree