Gay Roomate

[zombiehunterforhire]

Ok to clear some stuff up so i dont sound like an asshole. the title kinda does make me seem like one. the kid i'm mentioning is one of my good friends and i have absolutely nothing against the LGBT community. i'm just clueless about the situation. also probably this is probably the wrong place to put this thread in but this was the closest. so here goes.
So my friend, i'll call him E for confidentiality reasons, is gay and i have no problem with it whatsoever. So in my club we are going to another town in California for a competition that we'll have to stay in a hotel for 3 days in. Six guys are going and three are in a room. three guys have already made clear they want their own room, because said people are friends. So i'm in a room with my friend E and another kid who i talk to occasionally but dont really consider a friend. My teacher talked to us about it and basically i was given the order to make sure that the other kid doesn't talk before thinking. because that's what he always does. so what can i do to make sure he does know what he's saying so he doesnt offend my friend, with out seeming like a dictator. anything will help. Thanks

[Aeran]

Just be frank and explain the situation. Tell him if he can't say anything nice then perhaps he shouldn't say anything at all, but also tell "E" that if the other kid says something offensive, to just ignore it! It's only for three days... Right?

I know it sucks to be put in the middle of this situation, but your room mates are all grown up and should be able to handle each other maturely.

You might choose to be the dictator, or you could just let them work it out for themselves, it's not really your responsibility!

[Sythan]

I agree with what Matt said. Talk to your friend and tell explain to him the situation. Tell "E" to ignore anything offensive or perceived-offensive things the other kid says, because he has a tendency to speak before thinking.

[FriendZoneMayor]

I'm with Matt here, too. I had to room with some pretty insensitive people when I was in show choir in high school, and it's best to just ignore them, but when a friend would speak up for me when someone else said something that could offend me.

[Revolution]

Be supportive of your friend. Honestly, you can't control what the other kid does, but you can control your reactions. For one, let E know that the guy is just a dick, and make sure you hang out with E the entire time to make the guy know that you are supportive of your friend. And honestly, if you guys are friendly to the other guy, the other guy might just respond back being friendly. You never know. Sometimes, you have to fight anger with kindness. Hope that helped a bit.