scared to come out :(

msfsteven · **scared to come out :( -** February 23rd 2012, 11:57 AM

i want to come out in a way, but im really nervous about what will happen and what will change. i dont want people making fun of me or my parents to look at me weird and say im not normal, because i dont think anything is wrong with me. im mostly scared of not being able to take it back. what if i regret it, or it doesnt work out and im stuck being unhappy? im just not sure if i should come out or not.

George^^ · **Re: scared to come out :( -** February 23rd 2012, 04:50 PM

Hey. Your not the only terrified person, I was freaked. I'm not out of the closet, not by a long shot, but hey, at least I can be me to my closest friends. I had it easy, since most of my friend's are bisexual/pansexual like me (Or open minded.)

-Come out to someone you apsolutely trust first, then move on from there.

PM me anytime.

-G.

MusicIsEverything · **Re: scared to come out :( -** February 23rd 2012, 06:52 PM

Me too

you can always PM me

will was here · **Re: scared to come out :( -** February 23rd 2012, 10:32 PM

here's the thing, no gay person ever really comes out of the closet because the world it'self it one big closet. you come out every time you stick up for yourself and for other people. Comming out to you parents is just another one of the many times you will have to come out. It's not going to end the world if they are upset. because if they are upset then so what. they have issues. not you. You shouldn't be the one to suffer for all this. it takes so much unnessasary pain to keep one's self bottled up like that. I wish i was less closeted. I wish i could just go up to cute guys i like and say, "hey guess what, I LIKE YOU!"
but I dont have the courage. the stupid closet planet forces me to bottle myself up. I'm not brave enough to express how I really feel. maybe you are. I'm sure if you just told everyone, (except people you think it might be dangerous to tell) you would feel a weight lifted off your shoulders. at least tell some people you trust. sorry was i babbling? I'm a little tired so my thought process is not as clear as usual. I hope this helped though and I hope it makes sense

Syzygy. · **Re: scared to come out :( -** February 24th 2012, 03:16 AM

Hey Steven.

Coming out is always a scary experience, because you can never be entirely sure how other people will react. If you're really not sure, I would recommend holding off for a while. Like you said, you can't take it back, and there's no shame in not being out; sometimes sexuality can be a very personal thing, and it's okay not to share it with others.

If you're likely to be a target for bullies or discrimination, or are in danger of being disowned or otherwise disadvantaged, then maybe rethink coming out. While it can be a liberating experience, it can also be dangerous in certain circumstances, so be careful.

If you're really keen on the idea, maybe try coming out to one or two people who are likely to be supportive, and they can help you figure out where to go from there. Having a strong support network is important during this process, because unfortunately the chances are that you will run into some people who don't accept you, and you need your friends behind you to help you ignore them and focus on the people and things that really matter.

Good luck.