Triggering (Abuse): Friends?

[alexandra98]

So let's start at the start. One of my best male friends sits next to me in Chemistry. Just to mention we're both 13. So, the other day, we were sitting quietly and he just casually put his hand on my knee. I thought he didn't mean anything, but his hand just went up. He stopped at my thigh, but I was so scarred and confused... The class ended and I went home, and I didn't put too much thought in the situation, but I still thought about it. I managed to persuade myself that he liked me and I felt pretty. But then, a couple of days later, he did it again, in Math class. Only this time, he didn't stop at my thigh, his hand just went up and up, and when it reached... a certain area... I asked him to stop, to which he replied 'Shut up!' I got very upset and left my switched seats. The teacher wasn't in the room so I didn't need to make up and excuse. Later on, I told my best girl friends about this issue, and she confronted him. She used the term 'Sexual abuse' and he pretended to have no idea what she's talking about, so I just decided to keep it in the dark. Later I decided to tell HIS best friend, and when they talked, he jokingly said something about him 'raping me' and he said 'So?' I feel so unsafe now. Now, guys, don't go telling me he likes me, since he doesn't. We openly talk about these kinds of things. Please help.

[Skeleton]

Have you talked to an adult about this? I would say it is sexual abuse, he did something without your permission and when you asked him to stop, he just told you shut up rather than stopping. So, I would recommend talking to an adult, whether it be your parent or teacher and let them know what happened so that they can sort it out for you, you shouldn't have to feel unsafe because of one guy and his friends comments.

[JohnCoop]

Talk to an adult and talk to him. That behavior is completely unacceptable and could land him in serious trouble and/ or jail. I wouldn't talk or sit with him from now on seeing as any boy who makes you feel unsafe in that way and does so knowingly without caring is NOT someone you want to be friends with.

[Jaguar]

Not much of a friend! Unwanted touching isn't acceptable behavior and it's perfectly ok to tell him so in no uncertain terms. If he tries something like that again feel free to say loudly get your hand off my leg. The louder the better.

He shows signs of being abusive so I would scratch him of the list of friends and by all means don't go out with the guy.

[Bonjour]

This is defiantly sexual abuse. I'd try telling him (very firmly and confidently) you don't like it and its not ok. There's a good chance it wont work, but it's important to try anyways. If he does it again talk to your teacher. They should take this seriously since your so young.

[Vaughndy7]

I think you need to tell him that you did not like this and make sure that he understands that you were not just playing around even though no means no and he should have stopped. If he does this again or makes a comment that you are uncomfortable with you need to tell a teacher or adult because this is sexual abuse and it is not in any way right.