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Question We like each other but are both shy? - July 27th 2012, 12:51 PM

So, there's a boy who moved to my school at the start of the year. We didn't really talk that much at first but eventually when we did start talking we started to become friends.

About a month ago one of my friends told me that this guy liked me. I didn't believe her at first but then all our friends started telling me how much this guy talked about me and liked me except that he's too shy to tell me. We've still been hanging out a lot but he's really awkward around me now. I've been thinking about trying to talk to him about it but my lack of experience and abuse (by male members of my family, not in relationships) makes me a bit worried and scared.

Do you think I should just toughen up and talk to him? And if so what would be the best way of going about it? Or should I just wait and hope he says something?

Sorry if this was a bit whingy but I could really do with some advice.
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Re: We like each other but are both shy? - July 27th 2012, 03:58 PM

Hey there Katie. My advice to you is just talk to him about it. That's always the best way to go. And you can't go on fearing every male because of past abuse because hunny, they are not all like that. I was in an abusive relationship and I know where you're coming from but you've gotten to know him. Give it a shot. Be strong. You can do this. You can't let the past hold you back, you've got to move forward, you get what I'm saying? And how to go about it would be just straight out ask him. Guys like it when you're straight forward with them. They would prefer that over the beating around the bush and not getting to your point. I hope I helped some! Let me know how it goes! Message me if you need anything else. Take care!
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Re: We like each other but are both shy? - July 27th 2012, 09:30 PM

You should definitely talk to him about it. I know abuse tends to impair people afterwards, but you can't let the past keep you from doing things now. Communication is really important in any kind of relationship so if you want to find out how he really feels then you're going to have to ask him. The best way to go about it is to just be upfront and to the point. You want to make sure that you both get on the same page about how you both feel.

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Re: We like each other but are both shy? - July 28th 2012, 05:01 PM

You should definitely try to find a most comfortable way possible to talk to him about it. You shouldn't let bad experience with men affect you with moving forth with a nice sounding guy.

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