Support Forums Today's Posts

Get Advice Connect with TeenHelp Resources
HelpLINK Facebook     Twitter     Tumblr     Instagram    Hotlines    Safety Zone    Alternatives

You are not registered or have not logged in

Hello guest! (Not a guest? Log in above!)

As a guest on TeenHelp you are only able to use some of our site's features. By registering an account you will be able to enjoy unlimited access to our site, and will be able to:

  • Connect with thousands of teenagers worldwide by actively taking part in our Support Forums and Chat Room.
  • Find others with similar interests in our Social Groups.
  • Express yourself through our Blogs, Picture Albums and User Profiles.
  • And much much more!

Signing up is free, anonymous and will only take a few moments, so click here to register now!

Relationships and Dating Ask here for advice on dates, break-ups and other relationship concerns.

Closed Thread
Thread Tools Search this Thread
  (#1 (permalink)) Old
Perfectly Flawed
Not a n00b
Coreless_Serenity's Avatar
Name: Kenny
Age: 21
Gender: Female

Posts: 75
Join Date: January 11th 2011

Did I screw up already? & did we move way to fast? - August 23rd 2012, 04:48 AM

Ok..I'll try to keep this short. I have a new boyfriend, we've only been together for like, 5 days. We talked for awhile and hung out a bit before we started dating. I really, really like this guy. And he really, really likes me. And I want this to last. But I think we got physical too fast..our first date as a couple, we made out, and he wanted to take our shirts off but I said no, and he seemed okay with that. Two days ago..I think we took it way too far. We were alone cuddling and watching tv, and we made out. He suggested taking it to the bedroom, which I said no. He suggested just making out with our shirts off so then I'm just like 'what the hell', and went for it. I told him shirts off, that's it. After making out in his bed for awhile, us both shirtless, he unhooked my bra. Caught in the moment, I let him. After awhile, he started rubbing 'down there' over my shorts, and I let him. He tried putting his hand in my shorts, but I said no..but after awhile it felt so good i let him take my shorts off. Anyway, after I was 'finished' I gave him a handjob..
Afterwards, we just cuddled for awhile and talked about random things. I honestly felt a lot closer to him after that, but I think I made a big mistake. The day after he texted and asked if I regretted it. I said that we took it way too fast. He apologized for pressuring me so hard and that he should have stopped when I told him to. So I said that I don't want to take it any further for awhile, and he seemed fine with that. But I'm afraid I really fucked up. That's the furthest I've gone with a guy, and we were only 'in a relationship' for 3 days. I still really like him, but I am so scared of getting hurt. I don't think he's some player or just trying to get in my pants. And I trust him, but I can't get this gnawing feeling out that I screwed up letting him go that far. I don't feel guilt, I just feel scared. I never thought it would get so physical so fast. I've been hurt by guys so much and I don't think I could handle it if this messed up our relationship. I'm definitely not going to go any further until I feel ready, and I told him that. But I'm afraid that I seem easy to get or something now, and I'm just going to be a hit and quit sort of thing. (We're both virgins, btw. And that's the farthest he's gone with a girl. I'm 15, he's 17.) I really want this to last but I think I seriously messed up. I don't know what to do. Should I cut off anything further than kissing for a long time?Should I just tell him I'm scared we messed up? Idk, I'm so confused please help.

  (#2 (permalink)) Old
JollyRancher. Offline
Princess of the Unicorns
Regular TeenHelper
JollyRancher.'s Avatar
Name: Daisy or Dacashe
Age: 21
Gender: Female
Location: Connecticut

Posts: 411
Join Date: January 1st 2012

Re: Did I screw up already? & did we move way to fast? - August 23rd 2012, 05:12 AM

In my opinion, i think the best thing is to talk to him. Both of you should talk out what happen anf get the thoughts from boths point of view.

Used to be Misslostintears
If you ever want to talk or something, i am always here.
I've been around for a while now.

If someone tells you that something you love is wrong,
IF someone tries to destroy your dreams,


Closed Thread


fast, move, screw

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off

All material copyright 1998-2017, TeenHelp.
Terms | Legal | Privacy | Conduct | Complaints

Powered by vBulletin®.
Copyright ©2000-2018, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search engine optimization by vBSEO.
Theme developed in association with vBStyles.