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My girlfriend's parents... -
December 27th 2012, 11:27 PM
My girlfriend's parents (her mom) won't let me take my girlfriend out to a movie or anything (I'm assuming because I'm 2 years older than her). I've been asking my girlfriend to talk to her about it, and I'm considering talking to her about it myself. But, I'm not really sure what to do... It's frustrating that I can't take my girlfriend out to the mall or anything because her mom I guess is worried that we won't actually go where we say we are going, and instead will be having sex and stuff. Any advice?
Re: My girlfriend's parents... -
December 28th 2012, 12:20 AM
I think you should talk to her mom. You should sit down, have a real conversation with her where you tell her what your intentions are, how you feel about her daughter, and that you would never do anything to betray any trust she may or may not have for you.
It sucks that you can't do things with your girlfriend, but as I'm sure you're aware it's really up to her parents to trust both you and her until she turns 18. You just need to earn some trust, and that can usually be done by being honest and sincere. Parents are just looking out for what's right for their kids, and if she sees you as a potential threat right now then she's not going to trust you at all, you need to let her know that you're a friend not an enemy. You need to let her know that she's not the only one who wants what's best for her daughter, but that you want the same things for her.
Really what it boils down to is you need to have a real conversation with her mom and let her know that you're trustworthy.
Re: My girlfriend's parents... -
December 28th 2012, 02:09 AM
Just meet with them and show them that you're a really good guy. It's definitely frustrating, I know from experience. Just earn their trust, it may take time, but they need to trust the boy who has their daughter's heart at the moment.
If you take the time to earn their trust, you'll be in for good!
Good luck!
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Re: My girlfriend's parents... -
December 28th 2012, 01:32 PM
I think maybe you and your girlfriend need to sit down with her parents and chat to them about this.
Try to arrange some sort of a compromise that maybe yous can go to the movies/the mall if they give you a lift there/lift home or that you will be back at a certain time.
It's all about showing them that you can be trusted. If you can do this, they should relax a bit with time.
Re: My girlfriend's parents... -
December 28th 2012, 09:25 PM
I know my parents (my dad mainly) were VERY protective of me till i turned 18. especially cuz i liked older guys. Its probably just something ur gonna have to deal with till she is an adult too. Do everything you can to earn their trust and prove you are a good guy. My current bf is willing to go out for cofee with just my dad so they can talk and he can show he is an honorable gentleman. Just put out as much effort as you can.
"One day at a time, this is enough. Do not look back and grieve over the past for it is gone; and do not be troubled about the future, for it has not yet come. Live in the present, and make it so beautiful it will be worth remembering." -Ida Scott Taylor