Can't get over him

[mariahhaven]

I semi-dated this boy for 11 months, my parents caught us sneaking around so it was never official but we talked everyday and were committed to eachother, everyone at school knew we were a couple...he broke it off a few weeks ago and is making all this "popular" friends at school and i can't handle seeing him, he hasn't even made eye contact with me in a month and won't talk to me at all...i am so upset all the time over it..any advice? i'm new to this site

[CrusadingAvenger]

Hey Mariah! First off, welcome to this site. Second, sorry to hear that this guy hasn't been talking to you or making eye contact with you for over a month. Well, if I may, speaking from personal experience, and from what I've seen in all my years of being in high school (currently in my last year, which is senior year), it seems like (and don't quote me on this; this is just my interpretation of what's going on) he broke up with you in the first place so that he could start meeting and being friends with "popular" people, and it's possible that he did that because he probably saw you as not one of the "popular" people, and he probably felt the need to fit in with everyone else. However, with all that said, there's no easy way to put this to you, but you just got to let it go. It sounds easier said than done, but it's what needs to happen. He's probably not even thinking about you, and since he hasn't looked at you or said anything to you lately, why should you even be thinking about him? It's been a month already, and shouldn't that be telling you something? Unless he comes to you and starts talking to you again, I wouldn't bother trying to talk to him. If he wants to make that decision to fit in with the "popular" crowd and not be with you, then so be it. He made his choice, and it's up to him if he wants to undo that or not. You can't make him change his mind about you if he doesn't want to. If he talks to you and apologizes for what he did, then that's good. If he never talks to you again, then don't bother talking to him either. Just move on. It's tough I know, and trust me, I understand how upsetting this is because I've been treated like this with girls that I used to like. Don't stress and be upset over this though; it's not worth it.

I hope you'll feel better, and that you'll take my advice into consideration. May all the best be with you.