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An0nymous May 15th 2016 09:37 AM

I Need Help On How To Handle An Issue In My Relationship
 
I met a girl on a social media site for teens, and in the picture, she was beautiful, and when her and I began talking, we instantly connected, and we still do after about 2 weeks of dating. We have already told each other we love one another, and now that I look back on our relationship of 2 weeks, I see how we rushed into things, but this isn't the issue I face. The issue I have now, is that we have expanded our chats from this social media site to Facebook, Facebook Messenger, Snapchat, and normal texting, and from this, I learned more about my girlfriend.
In the social media pictures on the teen social media site, she was gorgeous and beautiful, but as I've seen her on other social media (i.e. Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, etc.), I've noticed that she doesn't look exactly how she did in her pictures. This may sound superficial, and it probably is, and while I don't judge people on their appearances, I feel like the reason I am in this instance is because I am dating the person that I am judging (and, I'm not trying to sound like an asshole, even though I know I am). The issue I have is that my girlfriend is very overweight, like beyond the point of just chubby. I never have issues with anyone, regardless of appearance, but the body type I'm attracted to ranges from healthily skinny (not anorexic) to kind of chubby (a little gut); although my preferred body type is a girl who is fit. I love this girl's personality, and I would love to remain friends with her, but, I don't really want to be in a relationship with her.
We tell each other we love each other a lot, and I don't know how to tell her that I don't really love her and that I want to be friends in a nice way. This brings a few questions to mind for me; like: 1. Is this a common issue? / 2. Is it possible to remain friends with her if we break up? / 3. How do I break up with her? / 4. When I break up with her, should I let her know that it's because of her weight?

bunnyboy May 15th 2016 10:59 AM

Re: I Need Help On How To Handle An Issue In My Relationship
 
Hey, my name is David.
From what I am reading, in answer to you first question, this is perfectly normal in my opinion. You would easily be able to stay friends if you broke up, I met one of my girlfriends online and we never met but after two weeks she dumped me but we still haven't met and we are really good friends. I am not an expert on breakups unfortunately so I can't really help you here, sorry. I don't think you should tell her the reason especially if it is looks. Hope this helped you.
David


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